10 People You Need To Avoid In Life

by Marcia Sirota MD

10-People-You-Need-To-Avoid-In-Life_OMTimesLife is challenging enough without our adding to the things that might go wrong. Knowing more about the types of people to avoid and the kinds of problems they’re likely to create in our lives will help us prevent a lot of unnecessary suffering.

Number ten on the list is the “Volcano.” This is a person who carries around a whole lot of anger. You have to know that sooner or later the volcano is going to blow, and will spill hot lava all over you. Their reaction might be triggered by something you do or say but in reality, you couldn’t possibly have done anything to evoke this intense an explosion. You’ll end up walking around on eggshells, when what you need to do is just walk away.

Number nine on the list is the “Dreamer.” This is someone who always has the next big secret of success just at their fingertips. They’re filled with great ideas and plans; the thing is, they never follow through. Or, if they do, it wasn’t carefully thought out and it’s an unmitigated disaster. These people usually end up in huge debt and even going bankrupt. Attaching yourself to someone like this is a guaranteed way of getting dragged down with them.

In the eighth spot on the list is the “Lost Boy.” This person, be they male or female, is living out the Peter Pan scenario. They are refusing to grow up and are subtly trying to manipulate those around them to take on their care and feeding. This person is making a choice. They actually could grow up if they wanted to. Because they refuse to be responsible for themselves, they’ll be a burden on you forever. Walk away.

Number seven on the list is the “Narcissist.” This person loves themselves to the exclusion of everyone else. Initially, they might appear charming and fascinating but eventually you’ll realize that it’s always all about them. They don’t take an interest in you and can be quite callous when you are in need of their empathy or support.

If you manage to inadvertently interfere with them getting their needs met, you’ll see their dark side in the fury they unleash when thwarted. They also experience your standing up for yourself as an offense against them. All in all, not someone to associate with if you enjoy being treated with respect.

In sixth place on the list is the “Drama Queen.” This person can be male or female, and they’re characterized by the need to be the center of attention and to create drama everywhere they go. Either they are in trouble and needing to be rescued or they make trouble for the people in their lives. They even like to pit one person against another. Run, do not walk away from such an individual.


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About The Author

Dr. Marcia Sirota is a Toronto-based board certified psychiatrist specializing in the treatment of trauma and addiction, as well as founder of the Ruthless Compassion Institute, whose mandate is to promote the philosophy of Ruthless Compassion and in so doing, improve the lives of people, everywhere.