Yoga and Sex II

Tantra is also called the Yoga of Relationship. There are many spiritual paths that are solitary and celibate. Tantra Yoga is a spiritual path that is in the world, in the nitty gritty of our daily lives. Our partner is our “beloved” and at times, as my partner Kip says, our “beloved button pusher”! Just as musical instruments need to be tuned to play together, so do we. One of our favorite Tantric exercises to deepen intimacy is the “melting hug.”  Looking into your partner’s eyes, move toward each other with full awareness and be mindful of any thoughts or feelings as you approach. As you embrace, allow all parts to touch, there are no nasty bits, all of you is sacred. Synchronize your breathing and let your bodies melt, again witnessing any thoughts and feelings. Continue to breathe together three to five full minutes. Let this be a meditation for you both as you feel yourselves come into resonance. When we take time to synchronize our breath, slow down and come into harmony, we can make Divine music.

The power of sexual energy can also be employed for our transformation and healing. After all, sexual energy creates new life. This is a very powerful force. With Tantra techniques sexual energy is redirected from our genitals up, rather than out, bathing our entire body, energizing and rejuvenating us. Rather than a genital sneeze we experience orgasm in our whole body. As we practice non-attachment at the height of desire we move from just having an orgasm to being orgasmic.

Many of us have had experiences of “spiritual sex” when we felt our soul connect with our partner’s soul. Some people have even said they were sure they had conceived during this lovemaking, and in fact they had. These are times when all the elements were right and they spontaneously felt a deep spiritual connection with their partner. Tantra Yoga techniques enable us to cultivate this spiritual sexual connection so these experiences aren’t just a matter of chance. [4]