6 Ways to Heal Your Holiday Grief
Heal Your Holiday Grief
By Thomas John
“Honey, where are you?” my Mom said in a quiet tone, her voice almost shaking. I could tell something was wrong. “Is it Grandma?” I asked. “Honey, I’m sorry, I know you guys were close, and you know she loved you” my mom whispered.
My Grandma Bianchi—my Italian grandmother who basically raised me—had died. And what’s worse, I was in Chicago at college, and hadn’t been able to get home in time to say goodbye to her. True, my mom had put the phone up to her ear the day before so I could say a few things, but still, many questions remained. And even though I talk to dead people, and I can see dead people, it doesn’t make me miss my grandmother any less. Yes, I feel her, and yes, I get a sense of her, and yes, she comes and tells me things in my dream—but nothing beats Grandma’s meatballs, and listening to her tell stories about raising seven children and coming to America when she was 5 years old.
Losing a loved one can be one of the most difficult experiences to endure. The process can bring up all sorts of emotions, such as abandonment, confusion, and guilt. As a spiritual medium, I consult with people on a daily basis about losing their friends and family who were important to them, especially during the holidays.
While it might not be everyone’s thing to try and contact the dead through séances and psychic mediums, here are six ways to honor your deceased loved ones, especially around the holidays. One common message I have heard in many of my readings is that the spirits of our deceased loved ones stay around us, and they are aware of what we continue to do. These 6 tips will help you with your Holiday Grief process.
6 Tips to Heal Your Holiday Grief
Holiday Grief Tip #1 – Honor your loved ones in some way.
One of the ways you can do to stay connected with your loved ones is to still do things throughout your day that honor them. If they had a favorite dish, make it. If they had a favorite Christmas song, play it. If you had family traditions, still celebrate them. A lot of people go into shut down mode when someone dies, but that doesn’t do anything except breed confusion and resentment, especially for the younger generations.
Holiday Grief Tip #2 – Treasure your connection here.
Though it’s great to honor your loved ones once they are past, nothing can replace the connection between us here on Earth. Always focus on treasuring your connection with those that you love while they are still alive. It’s a hard feeling when we lose someone and we feel like things were unresolved or left unsaid. Always focus on making each relationship that you have here meaningful.
Holiday Grief Tip #3 – To make a connection with a loved one, you need to have a clear heart.
If you want to make a connection with someone that has passed, you need to be open to that type of communication. If you are meditating to connect with your father who died, but you want to connect so you can “yell at him”, that’s not going to help you connect with them.
Holiday Grief Tip #4 – Opportunity for exploration.
Use the death of your loved one to help you explore new things. Maybe you are someone who is new to understanding the afterlife. If so, use this as a time to understand the dying process and what happens after that. Envision ways you can grow and expand from this experience, instead of how this experience is sad and terrible.
Holiday Grief Tip #5 – Grief not guilt.
Grief is a healthy emotion. Grieving the death of someone you loved is natural and normal. Don’t get attached to certain truths you might have heard about grief—there’s no “right” or “wrong” way to handle grief, there’s no special time when it will be over, and grief can be a bit of a roller coaster (you might feel great one day, and horrible the next day).
Holiday Grief Tip #6 – It’s a Sign.
Whenever I am missing my grandmother, she always sends me a sign that she’s around me. If you’re someone that believes in the afterlife, than you probably believe that our loved ones have a way to communicate with us from there, too. If you happen to be missing your relatives today, ask them to send a sign just for comfort that they are around. You’ll be surprised how easily this works!
The truth is, very little can replace the connection and opportunity we have to love, appreciate, and understand each other on the Earth. So, whenever we interact with friends, loved ones, or even people we aren’t close with, we need to think about the meaning and implications of our actions. That being said, there are ways to remember our love ones that doesn’t involved chocolate ice cream and Kleenex.
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About the Author
Thomas John (aka the Manhattan Medium) is one of the most popular Psychic Mediums in the US. He has wowed audiences across the world with his impressively accurate messages from ‘the other side’. Hosting sold-out events such as A Night with Spirit and Dinner with the Dead. He has been featured in People Magazine, US Magazine, New York Magazine, The New York Daily News, Vanity Fair, GQ Magazine and has been appeared on Dr. Phil, Entertainment Tonight, Dish Nation, as well as, The Real Housewives of New York and Million Dollar Listing (Bravo)! His debut book Never Argue with a Dead Person will be released by (Hampton Roads (March 2015). Thomas John is widely being touted as an up and coming, next generation psychic medium and he is endorsed by myriad A list celebrities and media luminaries.
