Feng Shui and the Wedding Date

On a frequent basis, I can evaluate a person’s home and predict the likelihood of my client meeting someone new for a romantic encounter that year. In some cases, I can narrow it down to the most likely months. When the potential is high to meet someone new, that is not the month to go into hibernation. So I advise clients to make him or herself available for this opportunity in time, when the house can actually help them attract someone.

Then, at least a few times per year, clients will ask whether or not I can help them choose a wedding date. This is not a major aspect to Feng Shui consulting. This kind of advice is best left in the hands of a competent astrologer, who can look at the individual charts for each person, see how their energies combine, and then choose a date that can energetically fill in any deficiencies in the relationship. This is especially critical for couples who already have communication problems, or issues which might undermine their commitment to each other.

But here’s the kicker: the wedding date is often not as influential as you might hope it to be. In the olden days, the wedding date was, in fact, the time that established when a couple would truly start living together under one roof and unite their destinies. It even meant in many cases that this would be the first time the couple would have sex. Well, that is certainly rarely the case nowadays. When a couple actually starts LIVING TOGETHER is the really important date. And we know some couples who live together for years before they officially tie the knot. So, if you are considering living with your boyfriend or girlfriend and want to initiate this on the most positive date, this is the modern way to choose what used to be called the Marriage Selection Date.

There are many principles in Feng Shui that can help a person personalize their space for more harmonious relationships, or how to avoid bad situations altogether. Some of the formulas and remedies are derived from a person’s birth data. This includes avoiding a certain sleeping direction that could keep you perpetually lonely or a house type that makes it harder to get into a relationship. For instance, a person born in the Year of the Tiger should not sleep with their head pointing to South/Southeast if they are a male, or North/Northeast if they are a female, as this would undermine the ability to attract a mate. There is an understanding in Feng Shui that you are actually in a relationship with your home and it can send out “signals” to attract or repel people to you.

Another example is that a person born in the year of the Horse should avoid a house type that “sits” (back of the house) to South/Southwest as this entire house orientation could also make it harder for the Horse zodiac sign to get married in that type of house.

There are many other techniques and remedies that can help attract, and “timing is everything.” Once the attraction has been manifested and the relationship is progressing, the wedding date or the commitment date can also re-direct the course of the relationship.