7 Steps to Healing the Wounds
By Phyllis King
The art of expansion requires we embrace each part of ourselves by seeing the value of each aspect of our experience. This allows our wholeness to reveal itself to us and includes embracing our wounds as well as our perceived flaws.
It is human nature to want to leave the negative past behind and feel the “good” stuff. The ego mind defines happiness as comfort and pleasure. The soul sees all experiences as abundant. In order to expand energetically, which is what life is (an energy game); we must learn to see the value in each moment, not just the happy and comfortable moments. If we brush off our feelings or moments without seeing the value, we unintentionally deny value. We essentially tell the divine “you got it wrong.” If we put that message into consciousness, our outcomes will be limited.
The process of expansion is more than just getting stuff. It’s more than having our relationships work out. It’s more than connecting with life purpose. It’s about embracing the wholeness of who we are – that is the single most abundant act any human being can do. It’s everything. Once you have everything, you can have anything your ego desires.
How do we recognize our wounds and not run from them? Most often we recognize wounding through our teachers. You may ask, “Who are our teachers?” They are our spouses who infuriate us or don’t meet our needs; our family members who don’t treat us as we wish they would; our boss or co-worker who demean and control us in various ways; our children who do the opposite of what we would like them to do; even our friends who disappoint us. These people and situations represent opportunities for learning; they are our teachers.
When you find yourself feeling angry, worried or certain you would be just fine “if only” someone or something outside of yourself would shift – that is your teacher and what you need to address inside of yourself. Your reaction that resists the present moment, taking personally what someone else does or causes you to become offended are golden opportunities to shift and expand internally. Those feelings move us away from our center of power and well-being. It is only us who can reclaim our power. We do that inch-by-inch by allowing ourselves to embody a perspective of abundance no matter what life shows us.
Here are seven steps to assist you in healing your wounds:
1. When faced with conflict or pain, begin to find neutrality by remembering that all experiences are equal in consciousness.
The ego says “good, bad, right, wrong.” The soul says “all is abundant.” When we encounter resistance or pain, the Divine has presented an opportunity to expand. It is our ability to see that opportunity that gives us peace and causes us to become more abundant.
2. Love yourself for your vulnerability and humanness.
Take time to acknowledge your injury and to source its origins. Don’t rush to move away from uncomfortable feelings. Allow insight about the wound to rise to your awareness. Give yourself space to feel. Then choose your next step.
3. Reach for gratitude.
Give thanks for the opportunity to expand. Feed the powerlessness with love and acceptance – either through ritual or some other means of self-support.
4. Be kind to yourself.
Don’t judge yourself for being wounded or for not knowing everything. Life is a process, not a race. All of us have layers to uncover to heal and expand. That’s what we’re doing on the planet. We can only do as much as we can do. That is enough. There is no timeline to meet for anything in your life. The Divine will always deliver what you need when you need. Trust that. Learn to replace worry with trust.
5. Do not forget where your life comes from – the origin of your wealth, health, and the love in your life.
Regardless of the vehicle (i.e. job, spouse, family), your needs are being met through your relationship with yourself and the Divine. It is the quality and consistency of this collaboration that determines how you allow abundance in.
6. Acknowledge the one-ness of all things.
There is no us, no them, only the one. Allow the feeling of connection in life to bathe over you. You are one wave in the ocean of life. Everything we do affects everything else. See the God consciousness in you. Recognize that as you heal yourself, you heal and expand the whole. You are a mighty and powerful being. One person can and does make a difference.
7. Take time to take care of yourself mentally, emotionally, spiritually and physically.
This is how you stay awake to connection. It is how you cope with the awareness of your wounds when you see them. It is one big piece in how you recognize your innate wholeness. Finally, ask for insight about how to stay connected to Source. Guess what? You will receive it.
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About the Author
Phyllis King holds a B.A. in Sociology and is the author of four books, including Bouncing Back, Thriving in Changing Times with Dr. Wayne Dyer. Her latest book is The Heart of the Matter: A Journey to Wholeness. http://PhyllisKing.net
