Tantra’s Response to: Does Size Matter?

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Uhm…How large does a guy have to be to make a woman happy?

~ Not-so-super-sized-in-Seattle

OM…

In the West, we are obsessed with the size of the male lingam. In the East, an equal emphasis is placed on the size of the female yoni. So if the question is, “Does size matter?” my answer would be, “It depends on whose size we are talking about.”

For good sex, it would be perfect that the lingam and yoni have a perfect fit.  A small lingam in a generous yoni will not feel like much to either partner. A large lingam in a small yoni is not conducive to prolonged sexual encounters.

But this is not always the case, wo what to do? Ideally, we find the perfect match. The lingam and yoni have reflexology zones that correspond to each other, and when the zones in the lingam match up to in the yoni, (i.e. heart to heart, lung to lung, etc) the experience can be unbelievable. But, more importantly, we should match up mentally, emotionally and spiritually as well.

No, it’s not that easy to find our life partner or our sexual counterpart, but there are other alternatives, short of looking for another partner. We can do exercises to strengthen our internal muscles to create a tighter fit. The point is, both men and women are equally responsible…because size DOES matter…Both of their sizes.

But rather than worry about your size, the male should learn to control his ejaculation, thereby giving hours of pleasuring the woman. By learning to control their ejaculatory impulses, a man can give his goddess a prolonged depth of intimacy. A man who can give a woman “time” gives her more time to achieve orgasms, multiple orgasms.

But the woman has to be “in shape” mentally, physically and emotionally to experience full bodied orgasms.  Women should also have strong internal muscularity. Weak, tired or stretched out muscles need to be exercised and toned. The thing is it can be done, so there is really no excuse for complacency or laziness. Both partners must be responsible for their own sexuality.

No matter what I say, I know that men are still concerned with their “size”…and this is what I have to say.  If you are less endowed it is important that you focus on your skills in other areas. Prolonged foreplay, for example. Or learning the art of cunnilingus…worshipping the woman’s yoni for 15 minutes or more. Practice that art. This is an area of lovemaking overlooked and under evaluated by men.  She would prefer the stroking of a masterful tongue for a long period of time than a large lingam jack-hammering for 10 seconds. I would recommend tantric exercises for both sexes. It really can do wonders, but you really have to do it consistently. If you are lazy, well everything else will be lazy too.