What’s Your Love Resolution?
By Gina Hardy
What needs to change in your love life this year that you have been putting off because “it’s complicated?”
If you are deliriously happy either single, dating or married then you probably won’t feel compelled to read any further. If you aren’t, then here are a few movie scenes your love life may be following that make you feel like shouting “cut!”
1) You are a 40 something single gal or guy and feel that love is starting to pass you by. a. Girls, the body clock maybe literally be screaming by now and is propelling you, like supermarket sweep, around various drinking establishments with a “man” trolley and in the vain hopes of bagging that special baby making machine. b. Guys you have not discussed it with your mates, because it’s not on the Friday night agenda, but find yourself shedding a forbidden tear at the latest chick flick over your takeaway.
You chat endlessly over dinners with friends about love and finding someone and analyze about “should I have done that much partying?” or “should I have traveled for that long?” because I am 40+ and still on my own.
2) You may be in a relationship that has all the hallmarks of “not going anywhere”, because you have been round the conflict Ferris wheel too many times and things are just not changing. You want to spend more and more time away from the house and randomly find yourself at an 8 week tiddly wink course at the local FE College because that’s more fun!
3) You may have young children and are finding your relationship less and less connected and pleasurable because you are ploughing all your energy and efforts into parenting and never seem to have the drive to find qt (quality time) because sleep deprivation is your number one relationship achilles heel.
4) You are in a relationship that is abusive and controlling and have been experiencing pain and emotional upheaval for too long now but don’t quite know what to do, so you rode it out through Christmas. The nagging doubts and friends advice is calling you to action.
5) You are single. Your last relationship was tough and emotional and took a long time to resolve and move on from in your mind and heart. You want to love but are scared to.
6) You are single; you want to be with someone. Dating sites next for me is your January mantra! I am sure there are more of you out there with other things going on but you get the picture. So you are where you are, but conscious love evades your life.
