Acknowledging Our Pain

Are you one of these wonderfully helpful and loving individuals?  Does the rescuer in you need rescuing himself or herself?  Are you burning out from inside due to your excessive giving?  Can you admit to having a long list of needs yourself?  Is there help for caregivers?

A gentle word of wisdom:  there is no one out there with a list of needs where your name is at the top.  You will have to create it yourself and then turn your wonderful talents to fulfilling your own needs.  This might mean not being quite so strong – perhaps even being vulnerable and admitting you hurt, too. St. Paul says: When I am weak, then am I strong.

You might feel some resentment that those around you cannot see your caregiver needs as you can see them in others. You’ll get help when you admit you need it; when you know you’re as human as the rest of us and that you are in pain.  And the wholeness of your having helped and having admitted to your own needs will inspire others to be as honest as you are.  I wish you well. I think you’re going to be surprised and delighted at the assistance that can come your way when you invite it in
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