Are You A Good Flirt?

Sustainable Wellness 101

By Cristina Smith

In his holy flirtation with the world, God occasionally drops a handkerchief. These handkerchiefs are called saints. ~Frederick Buechner

I saw this banner ad at the top of a website the other day. ‘Are You a Good Flirt?’ it asked. I stopped for a second and thought, ’Why of course I am a good flirt’. The next thought was…what did I flirt with?

That got me to thinking…the most common association with flirting is with disaster. Sounds kind of dangerous. After all, who wants to do more than flirt with it? What if you actually had to engage the disaster? Would you be ready, willing, and able to respond?

Don’t get me wrong- I love to flirt. Though I am not much of an eyelash batter, it makes me feel vital to engage a certain level of juicy energy exchange with another person or project.

Flirting is a fun force to play with. It invokes an interchange that is the pre-cursor to the energetic current of passion. A time honored courting tradition, we all do a lot of flirting, be it intellectually, emotionally or physically, and it’s not only with people. We flirt with job prospects, spiritual paths and diets. Flirting energy is a good way to check something or someone out yet not have to invest beyond the point of no return. The energy of flirting is non-committal so it is pretty safe for all of its juiciness- kind of like the first three months at a new job or volunteer position.

Society seems to be neutral on flirtatiousness~ it is okay to flirt but going beyond that is dangerous because we then move into passion which is a much more powerful energy that actually affects the world. For example, many people flirt with various causes like global warming, but it takes someone like Al Gore to go deeper and have a meaningful relationship with it. It seems to me our world is one that encourages us to be satisfied with flirting and never getting to the proverbial second base on any topic or person to go deeper and actually engage someone or some project.

I find that after awhile of flirting with a spiritual path, a partner, or cause, the question always gets called. Are you going to go deeper or are you going to fold?

Now that you are here, take a moment to consider what you are flirting with that may be ready for the next phase of passion.

Cristina is a flirtatious energetic healer and Sustainable Wellness™ coach. Her website is www.Heal-Thyself.com and you may feel free to contact her at Cristina@Heal-Thyself.com.