3 Signs You Are In a Toxic Relationship
If your relationship exhibits any of these signs, you may be in a toxic relationship and it is time for you to find the partner who is truly right for you!
The Toxic Relationship
By Ken Lauher
The other day, I shared some signs that may indicate you’ve found true love with the man of your dreams. But what if you have deeper doubts? You know it’s not true love (yet), but you think there may be a chance for your love to grow, given time.
So let’s say your new romantic partner doesn’t seem to need a lot of change. You’re pretty happy with him the way he is. But you still have a few doubts brewing before you’re ready to say, “I do.”
Still, you’re seeing some red flags that are telling you this person is not only NOT “the one,” but that you might actually be in a toxic relationship.
Unfortunately, we can find examples of unhealthy, toxic and co-dependent relationships are all around us. Jealousy, control, even physical demonstrations of anger, such as throwing things or punching holes in walls, seems like the new “normal relationship.” Bestselling novels glorify co-dependency and tell stories of women being able to successfully change men.
The only person you can change is yourself. You can use Feng Shui, meditation and other techniques to change how you view and react to another person, which may help to influence their actions, but you can never really change anyone. (If you’ve already heard that advice from your mom, well, I’m just here to share it again.)
If you see any of these co-dependency signs in your relationship, plain and simple, it’s a toxic relationship and time to get out. No excuses. You deserve better.
Here are three signs that you are in a toxic relationship:
Toxic Relationship Warning Sign #1. You’ve read the other person’s emails, text messages or checked their browser history. “I know I can trust him… but…” – Whatever excuse you want to give for this action, whether you’re just curious or you feel that you’re entitled because you’re a couple, snooping in someone’s private correspondence indicates a lack of trust. Either work out the trust issues right away or cut him loose. The same goes if you catch him snooping in any of your accounts.
Toxic Relationship Warning Sign #2. You feel as if you’ve lost yourself since you started dating. – Maybe he’s said or done things, like belittling your hobbies or your friends, that make you decide to give up the things you love. Or maybe you’ve just decided nothing matters except him. (Maybe your not introducing him to your friends and family because, deep down, you realize they won’t approve.) Whatever the reason and rationale, when you start losing yourself because of your relationship, it’s not healthy. Place your focus on things you’ve always loved to do, before it’s too late to break the pattern. If he has a problem with you exercising your freedom, there’s a good chance he’s not “the right one.”
Toxic Relationship Warning Sign #3. There’s physical violence in the relationship, even if it’s not directed towards you. – We’ve all heard stories of couples who throw plates when they get angry. But this is not a sign of a normal, healthy relationship. It might be easy to justify physical violence if your partner never actually hits you. But you deserve better than someone who doesn’t know how to channel anger constructively.
What signs do you think there are of a good, loving relationship? Share them in the comments below as we would love to hear from you.
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About the Author
One of America’s premier Feng Shui consultants, Ken Lauher helps thousands of people achieve their goals through Feng Shui. He can help you become a money magnet, attract passionate love, jump-start your career and get unstuck. Visit www.kenlauher.com to get your FREE Feng Shui guide and discover the ancient secrets that can help you unlock your true potential.
I was in a marriage for 18 years with a man who was passive aggressive. He wasn’t physically violent but he would put me down in very passive aggressive ways. It was very subtle. And I wish I had picked up on it long ago. But it took me a really long time to realize that he put me down constantly in little ways. I think this is just as damaging as being physically violent and maybe even more so because it is so subtle. I wish every woman had a chance to learn how even little things can do much damage. Just because he’s not physically violent does not mean that he is not violent in other ways.
“Maybe your not introducing him to your friends and family because, deep down, you realize they won’t approve.” You’re not your.
Trust, honesty, openness, respect, acceptance, of course Love.