Tap into Radical Trust
That abuse was in fact part of her lineage—five generations of women in her family were victims of misogynist and racist violence. But in her willingness to go to the depths of her own pain, she found healing. Pain transforms into its own medicine, the chalice that holds both our most virulent fears and most tender love. In her swan dive into her shadow side, James is able to stop the cycle of abuse and create a new lineage of transcendence.
James’ journey from an empty shell, profoundly disassociated from her truth, to being a beacon of strength and fulfillment has the power to ignite all of us on our journey toward awakening.
And it’s not just her words that are a powerful testimony to finding what makes us come alive—and awake—James has a wonderful presence, emitting a warm, relaxed vibe, coupled with a tough love clarity that makes her the kind girlfriend we all wish we had. In fact, James calls herself a transformation specialist, committed to helping people from all walks of life uncover their authenticity and connect with their essence. Here are a few of James’ suggestions for rediscovering your unique groove:
Stop the soap opera
Be willing to see the thought patterns that you create. Notice what overlays your memory—don’t be afraid to dig. Ask yourself what would your life be like if that story wasn’t running?
Recognize the tight spots
A huge part of awakening, James says, is recognizing the triggers that shut you down. “When you shut down your voice, the throat tends to tighten and constrict, literally,” says James. “But every moment is a choice. Ask yourself, how do you want to show up?”
