Shift Your Perspective: On Judgment
Judgment is a debilitating practice—whether the judgment is toward others or toward yourself. It happens whenever you label someone in a general way. It is a snap evaluation of that person based on your past experiences and core beliefs. You draw a conclusion about something before knowing all the facts or considering it within the context of the situation. It is merely your perception of that person, and not the only truth.
When you judge others, it serves to close you off from a connection with that person and from the lesson held within that interaction. Whether it’s about the actions, beliefs, or efforts of another, judging serves to limit understanding. It also directs negativity at that person. Live and let live to avoid judgment.
When evaluating a person or circumstance, is it your intention to send that person negativity? How is what they are saying or doing striking a chord for you that creates a judgmental stance?
It is the same when you point that judgment at yourself. That negative self-talk that arises with generalized statements such as, “Man, you’re so stupid,” or “I should have known better,” or the ever popular, “I can’t do anything right.” Now you’re sending negativity to yourself!
This practice only serves to weaken you and lessen your ability to overcome challenges. Focus on the specific thing that just happened, the choice that was made, or action taken. Now consider how you perceived it and remember that you are on a path of growth.
Maybe you just made a spontaneous choice that could have been given a bit more thought. Instead of calling yourself a disparaging name, tell yourself that the choice you made felt right in the moment and that next time, you’ll choose to give it additional thought before making a decision. That statement feels lighter, doesn’t it?
How about when someone else is doing something that you don’t approve of? Maybe they are living a lifestyle different from. Rather than judging, tell yourself that it’s great to live in a country where a wide range of beliefs are possible. Or more specifically, thinking that the path they are on is what is right for them to learn the lessons they came here to complete. Acceptance holds a higher vibrational frequency.
Each person is on the journey they are on because they chose it. Allowing yourself and others to travel on the path without judgment is a supportive gesture that leaves room for differences and for mistakes, while giving unconditional acceptance.
Even in tarot, the Judgement card (yes, spelled with an “e”) expresses the understanding that learning through experience and from interactions with others allows one to take command of the situation in a way that is for the highest good. Who is to say what is best for one person or another, except the person herself.
Rather than judging, try to understand the true nature of the person or the situation. Pay attention to the impact you have on others, as well as on yourself and see what can be learned in the process. To each his own!
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About the Author
Diane Wing wants to live in a world where people feel inspired, create their ideal future, and experience a sense of wonder at everyday magic. As an author and perspective changer, she’s published four books – The True Nature of Energy: Transforming Anxiety into Tranquility, The True Nature of Tarot: Your Path to Personal Empowerment, Thorne Manor and Other Bizarre Tales, and Coven: The Scrolls of the Four Winds all available now on Amazon, Barnes & Noble, Kobo, and iBooks. She is the founder of Wing Academy of Unfoldment, host of Wing Academy Radio, and has written a screenplay based on her novella, Thorne Manor. When it comes to getting unstuck and feeling great about life, her 9-word philosophy is: Let go. Be grateful. Stay open. See the magick. Find out more at: www.DianeWing.com
