There is More to Letting Go Than Just Words
Letting Go Is More Than Just Words
by Debbie Laughlin
Great strides in healing are made when we decide the energy spent in resentment, blame and anger just doesn’t make sense to us anymore. This realization lifts a thousand pounds of toxicity off our back as we see the problems we held on to so tightly were all based in blame, and we stop trying to rationalize the irrational. Once we arrive at this viewpoint, we can begin letting go and set some real and attainable inner aspirations.
In order to do this, it is very important to understand the flavor of our intentions and getting to know them personally. The intricacies of our mind and the pre-conditioned patterns are so interlaced with our feelings that they end up attaching to, co-creating and ultimately influencing what is in our heart and soul of intent. In essence, our intentions are a very powerful and amazing energy, and they are – our everything. Some of these intentions may be dangerous, some are simply old and outdated while some are unused and taking up space, so the harmful energy needs to be released and reborn. This energy trickles outward into and onto all we do and encounter daily.
We are the influencers of the wave – the mystic connection of one moment to the next, and we are responsible for this motion. We, (yes, you and I) have huge effects on our interior and exterior world, so we must be accountable at all times with our thoughts, our words and our actions. Never for one minute discount the power of our intention as it truly supersedes it all. However, a few things need to be put in place as we go.
Steps in Letting Go
Letting Go Key #1 – Break Free from the Intended Role of the “Victim”
As the victim, we stay small, and we stay in unhealthy shame as we beat our head against the wall for clarity. Although we may believe our intent is in the perfect place, if we are still clinging to blame and not actively letting go, we muddy up the energy and override the purity. It is also important to know that the answers we seek can elude us for a myriad of reasons when we maintain an unresolved status.
Some examples to illustrate this point:
We are not ready
The emotional strain of the truth may be too much to bear right now and the process is overwhelming, so we have to allow our inner understanding to catch up with the pain. As we sit somewhere in-between the two aspects of knowledge and suffering, what we discover is grace. There is no guarantee it will happen in the time frame we want, so it is not productive to punish yourself. Sometimes, we need to regroup, refocus and reboot, so to speak. Cede to the unknowable and put our intentions into surrender.
Our perception of the past has been tainted and dramatized by our memory and surroundings
In the distortion of the drama, things are always blown out of proportion. Not to minimize trauma, but there comes a time when we have to give ourselves a hug and say, “We have come this far, perhaps we don’t need to backtrack anymore.” This is where contentment and peace give us greater visibility in a foggy situation. If we want things to get better, we have to stop breathing life into the past and let it die.
Assigning cause or blame on others for our past is sidestepping a great opportunity for accountability and growth
In this modality, we stay exactly where we are, which is imprisoned in a time come-and-gone, instead of a solution for betterment in our current moment. Change can’t change until we commit to changing our self. When we put thought into this, then act on it with our highest intentions – transformation happens quickly.
Letting Go Key #2 – No Denying
We can’t dismiss where we come from because everything from birth to now is highly important. Being acquainted with and embracing our past with an intention of betterment shapes our path and future. We must use the wrongs as examples to make things right. Accept them while not making excuses and learn from them.
It is far better to leave the justifications in the hands of the universe and trust we have spent enough time in turmoil. Trust we are ready to make peace with the past, actively letting go, and happily move on. Trust we know all we need to know, and we are home. One day we may find as we surrender pain for indifference that when an ugly memory is sparked, the emotions that used to accompany it are null and void. We realize we are detached, yet very much alive aware and in the now. We are free to let it go with full meaning.
It is a pretty simple concept – our intentions to rise and heal begin here.
Release the blame, and it releases you.
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About the Author
Debbie Lynn Laughlin is a mother, grandmother, artist, writer, dancer, Yogi and Seeker of the Soul. She is a rock climber, rock collector and has been known to run with scissors.
Her daily posts can be found on Facebook at 360 degrees of Inspiration. www.facebook.com/360degreesofinspiration
