Confidence: Balancing Ego

by Darren Leigh

What is Ego?

According to Andrew Cohen, ego is “that emotional and psychological knot in consciousness that is the fundamental cause of the sense of separation from all of life.” From the spiritual perspective, ego is defined as pride, self-importance, and the narcissistic need to always see oneself as being separate – separate from others, separate from the world, separate from the whole universe. Ego is a love-denying obsession with separation, narcissism, and self-concern. How do we manage to balance ego in life with confidence?

Why are some souls ego driven?

Some souls are ego driven out of fear; fear that they need to be seen, or heard in some way as they feel that they are below others. This is, in fact, an illusion created by their own ego as their desire for praise and acknowledgement remains paramount in their search for acceptance into a grouping or society. Clearly the grouping or society make their own rules neglecting others and listening to others input; this is, of course, the ego that serves as protection.

Consequences of Imbalance Related to Confidence

The consequences are indeed quite severe as the ego-fueled soul makes an illusion that is not genuine nor realistic within keeping to their abilities and knowledge. A social folly remains that this has to be maintained with more energy needed. This typically results in failure as we cannot keep the illusional ego perpetuated for an entirety. This turns illusion into delusion resulting in believing in our own made up reality. This imbalance ultimately comes across as a lack of confidence or overcompensation, when the illusion of ego becomes evident.

How do I protect myself from becoming ego driven?

Protecting ourselves seems easy as we are aware at the time of change of what we are about to embark upon. The uneasy practicality is our passion for what we believe in or hold dear to our hearts, and this starts to outweigh balancing reason or true purpose.

Such is the feeling of rejection or non-acceptance within a world that is not playing in a fair and true way itself, and it forces our hand to out shine or outwit our fellow souls. Working with this in mind, we have to come back to our source, our soul, our purpose of being and growing.

Are we growing too fast? Are we even growing with confidence, in the right way? With these questions and a true answer from our soul, we can then reign in our desire over practical belief and purpose. To summarize, you only have to feel if you are in fact on your own correct life path and not the life path of a false ego, one which you feel you must have to fit into in this illusionary world.

Confidence or Ego?

It would appear that there is a fine line between confidence and ego. The difference being that someone who is confident about their ability or someone who believes totally in themselves without question. This belief is indeed unshakable, and it is engaged with passion and knowledge for their soul knows that they are staying true to themselves and their life path. Showing that you have confidence is a commanding emotion that others feel subconsciously. They do not question you, but soak up your knowledge and passion to initiate their own passion and recognize imbued abilities. This is inspirational and accepted in a genuine way, as we feel this without fear or jealousy.

The confusion lies when confidence is interpreted as ego on the part of the spectator because they are insecure and often jealous or fearful themselves. Ultimately, this would then be deemed a threat to their existence and future.

Now with ego, the difference is that the soul is indeed fearful and jealous and wishes to appear confident with the persona and ability. Their social standing becomes the main focus, which forces them out of balance. These souls are believed, because their strong will to be seen comes through arrogance rather than confidence. It seeps into the emotion to cover the imbalance, so as not to be found out. The folly continues as the power from others believing fortifies them even more. The end result is at some stage we have no foundation or support, which only leaves one way to go, and that is typically down.

With this in mind, what do you want? Which path will you take? What feels alien and what feels natural? I am sure you know. Don’t let fear dissolve away the confidence of who you really are.

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About the Author

Darren Leigh is a Holistic Spiritual Medium, Mentor, and Consultant. He has been working professionally with the spiritual realm for 25 years. Discover him here at www.consultantmedium.com.