Three Ways to Positively Face Pain
Pain and Conscious Healing
by Vicki Snyder
The holidays are over, and now you are left to deal with the possible pain, sadness, disappointment, or anger that has emerged. While everyone goes back to their normal lives, you may be left with the task of getting back to your normal self. Pain can arise from these feelings, which came about from interactions with family and friends. What do you do about it? Here are three ways you can positively face those feelings.
3 Conscious Healing Tips for Pain
1. Actually Sense the Pain for Conscious Healing
It is okay to let yourself feel the hurt and face your feelings. This may be easier said than done. What are you left feeling after the holidays? Are you feeling disappointment, sadness, despair, anger? No matter what you call it, it is okay to feel it without fear; the pain will not last. Oftentimes, spiritual people or empaths, also known as highly sensitive people, don’t allow themselves to actually feel and then release their hurt. They don’t cry, and they don’t show anger—they may just think they are feeling those feelings that came up.
Though it is uncomfortable to feel things such as sadness or anger, one should not try to hide their emotions. For example, if Grandma made you feel angry, then yell or hit your pillow. If your sibling made you feel sad, then cry, shed those tears, and move on. When you are upset with your sibling, be thankful for them, instead of allowing all the negative feelings to creep in; they are teachers, and are helping you to grow and learn more about yourself.
The pain will not last; however, if you refuse to engage in conscious healing and release your emotions, they may finally erupt and leave you standing there, wondering what happened. Well, what happened is you did not actually feel anything. You tried to tell yourself that you did, but your ego got in the way, and tricked you into thinking that it was dealt with. You didn’t get to the part of actually feeling the sadness, anger or disappointment. Take time to tune into what you are feeling.
When is surfaces, call it by its name—identify it, acknowledge it, and release it. That way, those around you avoid the eruption of your volcanic feelings and pain. Oftentimes, we have difficulty with this because we do not know what sadness, anger, bitterness or disappointment actually is. Many children are not taught the proper name for their feelings while growing up, so, even in adulthood, they may not identify what they are actually feeling. Learn to promote conscious healing and identify feelings with names.
2. Empty Your Internal Suitcase
It is not healthy to stuff painful feelings into your internal suitcase. At times, we like to think we are in perfect control of our emotions, but we are really only stuffing the pain, not actually dealing with our emotions. So stop stuffing! Work hard this New Year to be more conscious of when you are stuffing, and allow yourself to release those feelings that cause you pain. Do some unpacking for your suitcase does not have to control you.
Stuffing pain can cause physical symptoms that you may end up treating in unhealthy ways, such as overeating, drinking, or using drugs. You can face the pain, feel it, and say “I am letting you go.” Doing this is healthier. You will feel much better when you let the pain out, stop internalizing it, and stop allowing the ego to trick you into thinking you have everything under control.
Face it and don’t hide; you can reach out to others that are close to you for their help. This is a learning process: start by facing small emotions, and letting them out of your internal suitcase. Sometimes your suitcase can get pretty heavy, so try to lighten the load by first dealing with feelings that are the lightest, and then work your way up to harder, heavier baggage. Don’t allow that mental baggage to weaken your body, mind, and soul. Empty that suitcase.
3. Acknowledge Pain and Feelings as a Teacher
Think positively about pain and feelings. Thank it for teaching you new ideas, or for showing you the way to a better life. Oftentimes, we only think of pain as a negative experience, but it does not have to be that way. Pain is helpful, because it shows us things about ourselves: how strong we are, how determined we are, and how we can survive with the power of hope and faith. It can bring people closer to us, just as it can remove people who are not for our highest best.
Through pain we grow, so either way pain can be positive. The pain that you feel can help you empathize with others, and can increase your compassion for self. By facing pain with appreciation, you take away the power it holds over you. You can let go of the fear that holds you back from staying in a positive mindset, and allow yourself to delve into your own sense of power and not be a victim to the pain.
Pain gives you a chance to deal with the baggage you haven’t dealt with, and to grow from it. Pain gives you a second chance to make things better for yourself and those around you; it can help you to heal your past, present and future adversities. Know that this is a cumulative process which can be started just by agreeing to feeling.
Personally speaking, I received the following message which really resonated with me during my meditation. “You have an experience, but you are not the experience.” In other words, don’t let your experiences, your pain, your emotions define you—they are just a small part of your overall life experience. You are much more, so look at all of you, and not just your experiences. You do not have to become a victim to these experiences. Stand up and take control of them. This way, ultimately, your internal suitcase will be lighter and easier to manage as you travel through life.
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About the Author
Vicki Snyder is a certified psychic medium, spiritual consultant, angel intuitive, certified assertiveness coach, teacher, radio show host, and published author. Call on her to answer your life’s questions by phone, Skype, email, or in person in New York. You can catch her at many local psychic and wellness fairs. You can find her at www.vickisnyder.com
