3 Ways to Avoid Valentine’s Day Letdowns
Avoid Valentine’s Day Letdowns Successfully
by Vicki Snyder
Valentine’s Day is here. Maybe you have a special valentine and maybe you do not. Either way, here are three ways to avoid Valentine’s Day Letdowns with success. Start by removing expectations, take control, and plan a Valentine’s Day to remember this year. Try something new and different! You will not regret it, and it may turn out perfectly.
Avoid Valentine’s Day Letdowns with these three methods:
Avoiding Avoid Valentine’s Day Letdowns – Partnership
There is much pressure on this day to shower your loved one with gifts. Some couples might not be great with romantic notions, and also might not know what gifts would be seen as romantic. If you are asked what you want, speak up and tell them. They might not know what you actually want. What expression would mean success to you? Do you want a romantic, candlelight dinner; wine, and chocolate; or new jewelry and cologne? Would you prefer your valentine to help you with a chore around the house, or give you a day off from all your household and parental duties? It is time to take the bull by the horns, and help create your ideal, romantic Valentine’s Day.
Valentine’s Day Letdowns occur when it doesn’t happen the way we wanted; we sometimes are disappointed, which is not fair to our partner. We can’t expect them to automatically know what we want. Take a little control over the situation, and work together to make this a celebration of the love you have for one another. By doing this, you might be surprised to find that you both get what you want, with a lot less pressure.
Make a game of it. Think back to younger years, how you felt during adolescence. Try to bring those feelings back to create your perfect celebration. Remember the flutter in your stomach when you got your first gift for one another? The excitement of sharing your first valentine’s card and the innocence of love behind it—free from all life’s hangups and issues—pure love? Bring that pure love back this year. It can be enjoyable to plan your special love-celebration together.
Here are some ideas: do a replay of your very first Valentine’s Day; plan a night away; maybe plan on each contributing money for a special couple gift you both can enjoy instead of singular gifts. Don’t set your partner up for failure. Help them succeed, and you will be blessed with more love when the pressure is removed. Enjoy this special day and honor the love that you have.
Avoiding Avoid Valentine’s Day Letdowns – Communication Styles
Another way to avoid Valentine’s Day Letdowns is to truly listen and respond to each other’s love language. If you are in a relationship, I personally recommend reading The 5 Love Languages, (Chapman, 2010), which can help you learn how to express love in a way your partner gets. To sum it up, we each receive love in different ways. Take time to find out from your partner how they feel most loved by you. Does your partner like to be hugged and touched, do they like to hear the words, “I love you?”
Maybe they like to receive gifts as a measure of love or to have you do something special just for them. To find success with communication, it is very important to find out. Doing so can help you speak in a way that they can receive your love. While there is no right way to give or receive love, it can be helpful—especially on Valentine’s Day as well as in everyday life—to know this important piece of information about your valentine.
This Valentine’s Day, take the focus off how you typically show love, and take some time to incorporate ways to broadcast “I love you,” which will have a deeper impact on your valentine. For example, maybe your partner feels most loved when you take time to make them a home-cooked meal. Try doing that for them, even if you would really prefer to go out for that candlelit dinner. The good news is you can still have that in your own home. Compromise in a way that you both will be happy.
Pull out the candles, set a table in an area of your home that you never eat at, put some sexy clothes on, play romantic music, and pop the cork on your favorite wine! Know that you can bring the romance to your home by doing things out of the ordinary! Maybe you enjoy touch as your love language? You could ask your partner for a special massage and bubble bath after your candlelit, in-home meal.
We all have a romantic side to us, but sometimes we develop complacency, and forget those thoughtful things that we started out doing for each other. We forget to speak our partner’s love language. This Valentine’s Day, try to speak your love in a way that isn’t foreign.
Avoiding Avoid Valentine’s Day Letdowns – Expectations and Success
The pressure mounts as the holiday gets closer, for people who have a valentine and those who do not. If you are without a romantic valentine, why not make a friend or a family member your honorary valentine for the day? While love should be shared all year long, you can take this day to share some additional love. Do something extra nice and spend some quality time with your honorary valentine.
Try to remove the Valentine’s Day Letdowns that come with expectations for romance and success you may have placed on yourself for being single. It is okay to be single and still celebrate the love you have for those close to you!
Oftentimes, being single for this holiday can leave you feeling lonely and depressed. Why not make yourself your own valentine, and do something special for yourself? Love should start with you, single or not, and is one of the keys to success. Love yourself first and foremost, and the rest will fall into place. Open you heart up on this Valentine’s Day to love and appreciate yourself.
Make some new memories this year; fill your heart with all the love you have for self and others. Long after the chocolate, special meals, cards, and gifts are gone, it is important to still honor your relationship with self—not just on this day, but all year long.
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About the Author
Vicki Snyder is a Certified Psychic Medium, Spiritual Consultant, Angel Intuitive, Certified Assertiveness Coach, Teacher, and Published Author. She hosts Divine Angel Messages on Best of the Best, here on OM Times Radio, every fourth Tuesday at 8 p.m. Eastern Time. Call on her to answer your life’s questions by phone, Skype, email, or in-person in New York. You can see her at many local psychic and wellness fairs, and find her at: http://vickisnyder.com.
