Stop Being Oversensitive, Reactive and Dramatic
Relieve yourself from being Oversensitive, Reactive and Dramatic.
by Crystal Presence
Do You Know Someone Who Could Be Labeled Oversensitive, Reactive and Dramatic?
People who may be seen as oversensitive, reactive and dramatic come into the world with an extraordinary ability to be creative, introspective, inspiring and expressive. Only to discover their emotions are discouraged. They turn their emotions inward by contracting and holding back.
Anger turned inward creates cycles of self-rejection, resentment, comparison with others, and giving distorted meaning to what other people say. All of this keeps oversensitive individuals on the edge of exploding inside, and acting out in reactive and dramatic ways to free themselves up.
These behaviors serve to provoke other people. This can lead to feeling unloved and powerless to have the love they yearn for.
Some Effective Ways to Cultivate Emotional Equanimity
Some of the most effective ways for individuals to support themselves in cultivating emotional equanimity include the following:
~ Loving and accepting themselves, no matter what the evidence or circumstance. This includes the willingness to admit when they start distorting or provoking other people. It’s good to know they are not alone in doing these behaviors. All humans develop strategies in an attempt to stay safe. Some of the least talked about strategies are brought to light by Robert W. Firestone, Ph.D. in his book called, “The Fantasy Bond.” Making the decision is a great moment of awareness. They know they are going to do whatever it takes to love and free themselves from whatever is not working.
~ Telling a new story about who they are. Science can help them see the truth that they are connected to the same loving source that creates universes. They can choose to see themselves as an energy being manifesting in a physical body and co-creating their reality with their loving source. They are the love they have been looking for!
~ Breathing, vibrating and shaking gets love and acceptance flowing big time! It allows for deep and lasting change to happen.
Oversensitive, reactive and dramatic people often hear others say, “Oh, just snap out of it! Stop thinking all those negative thoughts and starting thinking positive ones.” Sounds like a great idea, right? For someone who is ‘oversensitive, reactive, or dramatic,’ it is not all that easy!
An Effective Movement Exercise for a Change
When energy is contracted and holding back, no matter how many positive thoughts they think, old unsupportive beliefs lurk in the background. The following exercise can help to understand why movement works so well to free themselves:
~ Take a deep breath and hold it in.
~ Keep holding the breath while tightening the fists and body.
~ Squeeze, squeeze and squeeze as much as possible!
~ Keep holding it tight while asking these questions: “How clear is my thinking right now? Where is my focus of attention? How relational do I feel? Where am I hurting?
~ Now let the breath go.
~ Take a deep breath in, relax and shake it out! Shake, shake, shake it out!
~ Letting go of being uptight and enjoying the relief of oxygen flowing through their veins.
Movement not only frees the body, it also allows thoughts and self-perceptions to change more freely!
Shifting self-perception is a simple and powerful way to love.
A great way to shift self-perception this is to familiarize ourselves with a body of knowledge called “The Enneagram”. The Enneagram is a loving way to identify hidden thought, feeling, and motivational patterns. It helps to realize we are not alone in their struggles. It shows there are many ways to turn things around:
~ It is empowering to discover we have the power to dissolve, resolve and evolve anything standing in the way of the life we want. Realizing that the way we think and feel is how we create our reality.
~ Admitting is the power to observe and tell the truth while opening up the doorways to “admit” ourselves into the expanding experience of the love we want.
~ Willingness is the act of letting go while allowing change to reveal itself in all the wonderful ways it does.
The question may arise, “How do I know if I’m willing or not?” The answer is always the same, “You know, you can feel it.” Even 10-15 seconds of pure, 100-percent willingness is enough for the shift we want to happen.
Withdrawal is the experience of making the transition from habitual contraction to the relief of letting go. This is key for anyone actively working to change from being oversensitive, reactive and dramatic. An important thing to remember is the temptation to spring back into old contracted habits before seeing how much life has changed. To ease the process, engage in lots of movement and action, doing fun things and reaching out to others.
Allowing is the art of continuously letting go of contraction and resistance while opening the space to reignite our inspired, creative, introspective and expressive selves again!
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About the Author
Crystal is an author, expansion guide and facilitator. Crystal’s career began as a registered nurse and midwife. For the past 35 years, Crystal’s passion has been creating a safe, fun and nurturing space for people to discover what stands between their suffering and the physical, emotional, mental and spiritual freedom they desire. Visit her website: http://www.CrystalPresenceOnline.com, or on Facebook at: www.facebook.com/crystalpresence and www.facebook.com.crystalpresenceonline
