The Feminine Art of Slowing Down

by Rebecca Clio Gould

Do You Ever Wish You Could Find More Time?

There’s one major key component to living a more sensual, pleasure-filled life that’s rarely talked about–slowing down. It allows us to connect more deeply with our feminine sexual essence and can be a major stress reliever and awareness enhancer. When you are more in touch with your femininity and sexuality, and walk through life in a relaxed state of heightened awareness, you are likely to find more time to experience more enjoyment and pleasure in life, as well as the capacity to make healthier choices.

Most people spend their lives rushing to their graves. What are you rushing for? Rushing increases stress, thereby elevating cortisol (the stress hormone) and depleting oxytocin (known as the love or cuddle hormone). When the body is stressed, it’s more likely to not only crave unhealthy foods but also to hold on to fat as part of a deeply ingrained survival mechanism. Also, although sometimes a sense of time pressure may be a turn-on during masturbation or sex, rushing usually takes away from your ability to experience optimal pleasure, or even minimal pleasure, during daily activities.

Ways to Slow Down and Find Extra Time

Consider this in terms of an everyday activity like driving. And if you don’t drive, think of riding the bus, riding your bike, or walking instead. If you’re rushing to get to an appointment and end up in traffic, instead of luxuriating in a leisurely drive and enjoying a book or a walk if you arrive early, you’re sitting in traffic feeling agitated, unable to do anything about being stuck, and getting upset about the possibility or certainty of being late. Your breathing is shallow, your body is tense, and you’re probably not happy.

Now imagine instead giving yourself an extra ten to twenty minutes, or even more, to get to wherever you’re going. Don’t worry right now about how that’s even possible. Just imagine. Imagine leaving early and having plenty of time. It doesn’t matter if there’s unexpected traffic. You can enjoy some music or catch up with a friend on the phone while you drive. And if you arrive early, you can meditate, go for a walk, journal, or read. You’re going to feel happier and more peaceful, breathe more fully, and feel better able to relax into the softness of your femininity-all of which are crucial to living a multi-orgasmic life.

Make it a Priority to Slow Down and Relax

I invite you to start experiencing the lusciousness of having more time, of not rushing. To do this might feel uncomfortable and even impossible and stressful at first, like you’re cutting into work or some other project to have more time to eat and drive, or like there’s no way that you can. But you can, and you will, and you must. It’s always possible to shave off a few minutes here or there from various activities so that you have more time to slow down–to relax into doing less, rather than more.

PRACTICE: The Gift of Time

First, it’s important to commit to yourself that you’re going to experiment with giving yourself more time. Set boundaries in terms of your availability to others so that you have sufficient time for you.

And set alarms-schedule in reminders to pop up on your phone or computer telling you to leave earlier. If you usually take twenty to thirty minutes to get somewhere, leave ten minutes earlier.

Think about how you want to enjoy that commute, such as with music or catching up on the phone or simply enjoying some silence and taking in the scenery.

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Consider the Rewards, and Reward Yourself!

Also, consider how you are going to reward yourself if you arrive at your destination early. With a book? A catnap? A walk around the block? Or maybe a latte or a piece of chocolate? Yes, that’s right-in the Multi-Orgasmic Diet, you can treat yourself to foods and drinks that other diet books would tell you to avoid, at least for now, because for now the focus is on pleasure and fun and awareness, not on rules about which foods to eat or avoid.

Tip: Consider keeping a journal or book in your car so that you always have a way to make the most of your time while also giving yourself the gift of more time to get where you’re going.

As you learn how to free up more time for yourself, you will discover the benefits of relaxing into the feminine art of slowing down.