Disengaging the Addictive Control in an Addicted Society

by Crystal Presence

Disengaging from Addictive Control and Lying

We know we are in the biggest shift in human consciousness, and also strive to be part of the resolution. Yet, with all our good intentions, we find ourselves repeating what we know is part of the problem. We engage in our old controlling and addictive ways of thinking, feeling, and behaving. When we get honest with ourselves, we admit to the voice inside telling us we are lying as a way to tolerate our lives.

We love the idea of letting go and going with the flow. At the same time, we fear that our lives will fall apart and we will end up alone and die if we disengage from the addictive control.

Addictive Control and Our Feelings of Powerlessness

Control has become the culturally acceptable way of dealing with our feelings of powerlessness. We also sense the pervasiveness of how it affects our lives and our world. We look for pathways to create a new context of living and know we will be happier and healthier when we can do the following:

Remain present and honest with ourselves.
Admit when the jobs we have are not right for us.
Spend our days doing the things we love to do.
Spend more time with the people we love.
Take better care of ourselves.

Let go of thinking what we should do, and allow ourselves to follow our internal guidance system.

The Invitation of Addiction in Society

Ann Wilson Schaef, author of “When Society Becomes an Addict” says, “Not only does our society invite addiction, it requires addiction to tolerate the society we have created”. Addiction is how we distract, control and disconnect ourselves from the truth of what we are really thinking, feeling and doing. When we feel powerlessness to stop the addiction, we are tempted to lie about it.

Whether it is an ingestive addiction (drugs, nicotine, alcohol, etc.) or a process addiction (obsessive thinking, worrying, self-generated feelings, money etc.), addiction interferes with our natural life processes. It interferes with our thinking, feeling and internal guidance system that is our natural way of knowing what is good for us.

How Do Addictions Erode Our Sense of Connection?

The following are how addictions erode our connection with ourselves and others:

Dishonesty: Lying to ourselves and others.

Self-Centeredness: Thinking, feeling and behaving in ways that are motivated out of our need to control everyone and everything. Believing that others are either for or against us.

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Illusion of Control: Thinking we can be in control of everyone and everything.

Notice how these very same addictive choices are rampant in our politics, media, education, corporations, medical institutions and other aspects of our society. Most of us can relate to this; however, we find it elusive to grasp the subtle and pervasive ways that addiction has a grip on us. We wonder how to know if we are addicted. The simplest answer is that we know.

Intimacy with ourselves is the key to disengaging from the addictive control. People fear that letting go of addiction will be hard. The truth, however, is that trying to keep everything under control is the hardest and most destructive thing we can do to ourselves. Disengaging from the addictive control is one of the easiest most natural things we can do.

So, How Do We Disengage from Addictive Control?

The following are some of the ways we can disengage and free ourselves from the addictive control:

Cultivate the awareness that we are literally connected to all that is.
Realize that we are vast multidimensional beings connected to the loving source that is creating us.
Admit and feel any powerlessness.
Engage in enjoyable movement to keep our energy flowing and open to change.
Spend time with ourselves.
Let go of thinking that life is static and it is our responsibility to get it under control.
Become aware of any addictive control plans we use to keep selecting, distorting and provoking our reality so we can prove to ourselves that we need to stay in addictive control to survive.
Release ourselves and others as objects that need controlling or fixing.
Let go of any addictive intellectual constructs, methodologies, interpretations, rational or logical constructs that keep us fixated in an old context of living.
Connect with our internal guidance system to find the way to what is best for us.
Let go of trying to be perfect, right and done.
Allow our life process to unfold and reveal itself in the perfect time, place and form.
Surround ourselves others who also want to join us in the journey.
Be aware of the withdrawal experience. Keep our energy moving to allow space for the old habits to dissolve, resolve and evolve.
Receive our power to co-create with our loving source the lives of joy, creativity, fun, ease, abundance and wellness we want.

About the Author

Crystal’s career began as a registered nurse and midwife. With a passion to be part of ending suffering in the world, a five-day transformational event called “Freedom at the Core” was born. For the past 35 years, Crystal has been creating a safe, fun and nurturing space for people to discover what stands between their suffering and the physical, emotional, mental and spiritual freedom that they want.
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