The Happy Couple Checklist

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The Happy Couple Checklist – 8 Little Things That Happy Couples do Every Day

The way to the happiness of marriage is cherishing the little things.

Once, Thomas Jefferson, the third president of the United States of America, said that “happiness is something that is sought, something that is built.” Often, we waste our time in search of great things, great demonstrations of love and affection, but we neglect a truth that applies mainly to love and happiness – it is through small things that great things are accomplished.

When I think of the way to be happy or to build a great love, I always think of a great tree and how this marvelous work of nature, capable of withstanding storms and strong winds, came from such a small seed. This seed, little by little, grows with modest efforts to create its roots and to pierce the earth, little by little, to become something grandiose.

The path to a happy life for two people also begins as a small seed and, little by little can become something beautiful. A well-nurtured love that sustains joy and grace can withstand the worst storms.

Like a seed that grows little by little, we can also do at least 8 small things, daily, to make a relationship happier.

8 Things Happy Couples Do Every Day

1 – Stop to say, “good morning,” to say “I love you.”

Some studies have already proven that the way we spend the first few minutes of a morning, or even a late afternoon at home, influences the environment that will live the rest of the day or the night. When we wake up in the morning, what’s the first thing we do? Do we choose to smile, look at our side and say a “good morning” full of love? Or when the husband (or wife) comes home will they stop for everything to give a kiss or a hug, and ask how the day went?

They are small gestures that can brighten the life of a couple early in the day or at the end of a day’s work

2 – Talk about your problems

Arguing is synonymous with debating problems. Often issues are ignored because they are afraid of creating confusion. It is normal for a person to get angry when something is wrong. But care must be taken to distinguish between situations that can be problematic – such as forgetting to help clean the house and leaving everything to the other party. In situations that are small and easy to solve – such as a cover out of place or a towel on the floor after a shower.

Although small things can annoy them, they can, and should, be resolved with a simple conversation. The more significant problems deserve greater attention, and it is beneficial when couples debate the problems and talk about their views. What is important is to keep the following in mind: when we go to a discussion, do we want to be right or do we want to be happy as a couple?

3 – Praise with sincerity and celebrate when something good happens.

We often hear that mutual support is important when something goes wrong, such as losing a job. But when something good happens, will we be able to praise and celebrate when we love someone who does something good?

We should not keep the accolades for the big events, like a job promotion, but we should know how to praise even when a husband is finally able to bend a shirt right or when the wife prepares a wonderful dinner. Research has concluded that praising is as, or more, important than knowing how to support when something terrible happens.

4 – Have fun as a couple

A happy couple is a couple in which the gratifying time is the same for both. Howard Markman, Ph.D., and co-director of family studies at the University of Denver said there is “a correlation between fun and happiness in marriage,” meaning a couple is happier if there are times of fun between them. These moments can be jokes to two at home or a trip to the amusement park without the children.

5 – Talk about all kinds of things

To share the routine of our lives with our spouse, regardless of how insignificant the details are, can nurture the intimacy and closeness of the couple.” Details such as what you ate at lunch during the workday or telling about activities during the day are very important for each one to know what goes on in the other’s life. This type of information, although it seems small, increases the involvement and confidence of the couple. Never stop telling, and asking, how was the day of the person who is by your side.

6 – Always act in a good mood

This point is a bit connected to point four, about fun. Every time we make the person we love to smile, it causes a physical change that allows the brain of both to release hormones like dopamine and oxytocin. If we can make people laugh, then they will feel happier and closer. When the couple laughs and remembers fun times from their past, or laugh and share something funny, they saw during the day, they come closer and closer.

7 – Hugging, kissing, holding hands

The author Wendy Walsh, Ph.D., said that “studies conducted with long-time and happy couples show that the frequency in which they share a kiss is more important to the security and happiness of the couple than the frequency of intercourse.”

Physical contact is significant for the intimacy of the couple. Walking with hand in hand, giving a kiss in the morning before leaving, or a spontaneous, passionate kiss or a simple hug after a long day are small gestures that bring the couple closer together.

8 – There are no prohibited subjects

A couple who wishes to be happy can’t allow forbidden matters between the two. Those subjects that no one speaks because they are afraid there will be a discussion. Usually, these issues are synonymous of unresolved problems. The happiness of the couple depends on how one deals with problems. Dialogue is essential.

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