Reinventing the Golden Rule
by Michelle Butt
We are all familiar with the Golden Rule. If you are like me, you probably have memories of your mother reminding you to remember the Golden Rule, which states, “Do unto others as you would like done unto you.”
In theory, doing unto others as we would like done unto ourselves seems like a noble approach to human relations. Yet, in practice, it has not always worked effectively. As a face reader, I have come to realize that the Golden Rule needs to be rewritten. You see, when you look at the face of another, the understanding that you gain challenges the rule.
In essence, people don’t want to be treated the way you want to be treated, they want to be treated the way they want to be treated. The single, most effective way to determine just how they want to be treated is to look at their face. The face gives us a window into the innate personality and behavioral choices of another person. We can see the effect of their life experiences on their faces, and often times understand how they have been treated and how they really do want to be treated. The comprehension and application of this new twist on the Golden Rule could remarkably change the course of your relationships and communication with anyone you come in contact with.
For example, if you are someone with a face with full cheeks and a generous mouth, you will be a natural born nurturer. Your first inclination when you meet someone new may be to give them a big hug and ask them about their family or feed them because that is how you would want to be treated.
However, if the person you were meeting for the first time had a prominent nose, narrow jaw and sunken rear lower cheeks, they would not want to be greeted with a hug. In fact, such a greeting could completely throw them off. They need their personal space respected until they can acclimatize to your big energy. They would prefer to discuss the matter at hand before letting you into their family life. There could also be a good chance that they have food sensitivities and would not want to be fed by a new acquaintance. Knowing how this person’s face says they would want to be treated would help you as the nurturer to guide your meeting and communication in a direction that gives them resonance with you at that first encounter.
Perhaps you offer to shake their hand and keep a good amount of personal space between you until they become comfortable. You would recognize their comfort with you by their initiation of the closing of the gap. The respect of their space would tell them unconsciously that you understand them, and you know how they want to be treated. Once that resonance and acclimatization was achieved, then they could let their guard down and really want to get to know you. Hugs and treats would soon be more than welcome.
Another example of this would be if you were already in a relationship with someone and you had to make a decision. If one partner has long, straight, thick eyebrows, then that person needs time to weigh all of the logical outcomes before making a decision. They can’t be rushed into a decision. If they are rushed, they could feel stress, anger and frustration.
If the other partner has eyebrows that are peaked in the middle, they make decisions quickly and go with their gut feeling. They tend to decide things on a whim. Not being able to move quickly can be frustrating for them and make them feel restricted or held back. Yet, if each of these individuals understood what just their eyebrows said about how they wanted to be treated when making decisions, think about how different the conversations around choices could be. There would be so much more room for understanding and a way to find a middle ground before either got frustrated or felt misunderstood.
In this world today, we often believe that others want what we want, would choose what we choose if they could or choose how we choose. In actuality, we each want what we want, not what you want. We have been given the beautiful translator of our preferences in our unique faces. It never ceases to amaze me how much insight we share with others in our faces, and yet we may not even realize the gift of relational wisdom we hold on our shoulders.
Perhaps, it is time we all learn the New Golden Rule – treat people the way they want to be treated and know that by looking at their face, we can determine just how to do that.
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About the Author
Michelle Butt is a Face Reader, Certified Master Coach and an Ordained Metaphysical Minister. She is also a contributing author to the book, Ready Aim Captivate, featuring Deepak Chopra. Her goal in life is to assist others in truly understanding who they are and to guide them to achieving the joyful, successful lives that they desire.
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