5 Questions to Ask to Help You Throw Out Your Head Trash
Do you suffer from too much head trash?
by Heather O’Neill
Five Questions to Sort the Head Trash
Head trash–it’s that stuff in our heads that we spend time engaged with instead of putting it where it belongs–in the garbage!! But until we recognize it as such, we call it truth and then obsess on the things it is holding us hostage believing. It’s the “I’m just not good enough,” “my partner isn’t giving me what I want and need,” and “I don’t have enough money and time,” junk.
Since our actions stem from how we feel inside, if we are letting the trash do the talking then what goes on around us is going to seem like garbage as well. So here are five questions we can ask ourselves to help identify it and work on throwing it out!
1. How do I tell my stories?
Think about a recent experience and rate the story that was told about it. 1-5 would be focused mostly on what was bothersome about it or what didn’t live up to expectations. 1 being nothing at all about it felt good. 5-10 would be mostly focused on what was liked, 10 being totally focused on the good stuff.
When we engage in this inner research around our stories we can begin to gauge where our focus lies. Then we can decide where we aspire to be speaking from going forward and begin to adjust our stories accordingly.
2. How do I speak to myself?
More often than we realize, we speak to ourselves extremely harshly and in ways that we would never speak to someone we loved. If our loved ones make a mistake we usually love and support them through the learning. It’s worth listening very closely to the way we speak to ourselves and to pick words that we would use with those we love. We deserve the very same treatment!
3. How do I define myself?
When we talk about ourselves we don’t often lead with our stellar qualities. Many times, we share the things we feel we are not good at. And even further we might engage in self-deprecating comments! What is that stuff?? It’s garbage.
Who we show up as is who we believe ourselves to be. If we don’t think we are good at something we don’t need to give energy to that sentiment. We can choose to give energy to what we believe we ARE good at. It’s not about being ego-driven, it’s about which beliefs we give energy too. It’s OK to want to feel good about ourselves.
4. What do my relationships mean to me?
Those on a spiritual path know that our relationships are where we put the pedal to the metal. They are the grounds for our true spiritual growth. Especially those we are in merely out of circumstance. i.e.) those we work with. The relationships we “have” to be in can ultimately serve as our biggest opportunities for growth when we don’t let them drag us into being someone we don’t want to be. We can view them as the greatest place for us to practice being our best self.
And we can practice that in any relationship. Even the ones we have the most expectation from. But in those relationships, we can ask for feedback. We can use them as mirrors to what is going on inside our self. And we can join forces to continue to grow to be who we seek to be within.
5. How clear is the window to my soul?
Remember a window should support vision from within and without. And when we have a lot of head trash floating around it clouds up that window. When we are not clear on who we want to show up as, or what we desire in our relationships, or how we feel about ourselves than neither is the universe. Clarity throws out the garbage. Yes, our desires will always be shifting. And that is fine. But when things are not clear, all we get in return is more murkiness. A wonderful exercise to support this clarity is to write down a sentence or two about what we want in the following areas: health, family, love relationship, friendships, career and spiritual life. When we do this, we send clear messages to the universe. And then we are not creating through head trash. We then create through clarity.
About the Author
Heather O’Neill is a Certified Law of Attraction Personal Life Coach and Reiki Master Teacher. Heather guides people to live by choice, rather than as a product of our thoughts. She believes our natural state is one of well-being and lights a path to that place for clients and students. Her mission is to be the change, help others with the change and thus change the world. Heatheroneillcoaching.com, facebook.com/LifecoachHeather.
