When a Friendship is Not a Real One

Good friendships bring countless benefits to our lives, but there are 10 types of friendships that are extremely toxic to our wellbeing.

When a Friendship Becomes Harmful

 

 

Good Friendships brings countless benefits to our lives: it decreases the risk of depression, anxiety, stress, helps our immune system dribble diseases, improves the health of our heart, and many others good things. However, not all friendships are healthy. There are ‘friends’ who do not deserve us, and yet it is difficult to break a bond when we care for the person. See the signs that you may have a harmful friendship.

When we start a friendship, everything is usually new, it is light, and we create empathy and affection for the person. But as time goes by, some friends become harmful, they do not add anything useful to our lives, and we begin to avoid that person. There are many reasons for this, and we often do not even realize that this friend is doing us harm.

 

WHEN YOU DO NOT HAVE MORE DESIRE TO MEET THE PERSON

Friends like to be together, even when it’s hard to find a good time by the rush of everyday life. We try to find a way to meet and have a good time together. When you begin to ‘be lazy’ to meet that friend is a sign that the effort you make to be together, it is not paying off. It is normal to go through more antisocial moments, but if this feeling of aversion to the person does not pass, it is a sign that this friendship is no longer worth it.

 

WHEN MEETING THAT PERSON, YOU FEEL WORSE

Some friends seem to see us as an escape valve: they only find us to talk about their problems, to complain about life, to ask for advice, to cry, etc. Friendships can and should carry us through terrible times and it is important to support our friends during their challenges, but when pessimism takes over the relationship, these gatherings become real torments to those who are always hearing problems and complaints. If your friend is transforming you into a wailing wall, he may be harming you.

 

WHEN YOUR FRIEND ASKS TOO MUCH, ALWAYS

“You forgot me, didn’t you?” “You do not like me; you just hang out with so-and-so now.” Friends are together to feel good, not to make emotional demands that can tax the relationship. It is usual for a friend to feel more abandoned when we begin a relationship or to become more distant, but if he is always demanding of you, it is a sign that you are already instinctively moving away from him. Excessive demands do harm to any friendship, if you are demanding too much or are feeling coerced by your friend’s claims, it is a sign that this friendship is harmful.

 

WHEN YOU ARE IRRITATED WITH THE PERSON

We often think: how did I stand such a person? People change, we change, and often a friend that was part of our life happens to no longer fit into it. Either because you have changed, or he has changed, or the two have changed, and affinities have lagged. If you become irritated with a person’s attitudes or thoughts and try to maintain the closeness you had before, beware: This attitude may create hostility, which is even worse. It is best to turn away and become friends on occasion, who coexist very little, not to create friction or ill will.

 

WHEN SOMEONE TEARS YOU DOWN

Someone who tries to humiliate you, tells you things that are damaging to you, that does not support you, only criticizes you: It is not a friend. “Do you like this music? That’s ridiculous”. “You’re not good enough for this.” “You’re not going to get dressed like this, are you? What a mediocre outfit. ” This is not a friend trying to alert you – it’s an enemy transvestite friend. Some people need to make others feel worse to feel on top of – get away from that kind of person.

 

WHEN SOMEONE APPEARS ONLY TO ASK FOR FAVORS

He has a ‘friend’ who only appears when he wants something in return when it suits him. When they need a professional appointment, or to borrow money. Then He starts to flatter you, give you a thousand compliments before you get to the point that really matters: To ask you favor or extort you. Run away from that kind of friendship.

Often, we have difficulty moving away, because after all, the person may not be being a bad friend for wanting. But you have to think. First, friends should always do you good, you should feel like meeting them, sharing good times together, and not being together just to comply with the table. As difficult as it may be, if you have friendship with one or more signs described above, it may be best for you to step away or keep a friendship further apart gradually.

 

Also, read STOP TAKING BAD ADVICE FROM GOOD FRIENDS

 

Ten Types of Friends to Avoid

The friendships we have can do us good, or they can break us.  Know the ten types that can do more harm than good in your life.

A good group of friends can also motivate and cheer you up. But on the other hand, some bad friends can also drag you to the bottom or ruin your life.

Choose your friends carefully and always make sure the friends closest to you are the ones who can make your life better and not worse.

These toxic friends can seem like fun at times, or even take you to unknown risks, but when the shit hits the fan, it’s up to you.

1. The Adulator

Many friendships have been destroyed because of sweet talk, and false adulation. Generally, people who try to flatter you and talk like you mean the world to them, and that is why they need you to do things for them. They will feed your Ego to keep you dependent on their opinions and advise. You would feel better with a friend who is more genuine and real, than someone that just tries to deceive you.

 

2. The Competitor

Not all type of competition is healthy in every relationship. But when the claws begin to come out, and things get incredibly competitive among friends, things can get very ugly. Avoid that.

 

3. The Leech

A friend who continually borrows his or her money, or depends a lot on you, is one that needs to be avoided. No one wants a one-sided relationship. If all your friend does is get you out, without giving anything back in friendship, there is no reason to remain friends.

 

4. The Impersonator

Imitation is considered the sincerest form of flattery, but a friend who looks or behaves like your Xerox machine can be terrifying. Have you seen the movie,” Single White Female?”

 

5. The Perfectionist

We all trust our friends and ask for advice, but when your best friend starts to act like he is hunting flaws, who only see flaws in your life or relationships, this can get very annoying and depressing. Ask yourself: Do you really need this aggravation?

 

6. The Selfish

It is the kind of friend that can go with you anywhere, for his benefit. But behave passively when you ask for help.

 

7. The Rebel Child

Dangerous and unstable is how this type is defined. You usually have problems, or you end up having to save your friend from difficulties.

 

8. The Cry Baby

It is the kind of friend that is never satisfied with anything, they have and spends all the time whining and complaining about how the world is so unfair to him. Stay away!

 

9. The Mood Murderer

It is the friend intentionally kills the mood as soon as he enters a conversation with you. He always seems to find a flaw in anything you do or have, be it your clothes or your love life. He is like the black cloud hovering over you on a sunny day. Nothing positive ever comes out of your mouth. He is never far from sarcastic comments or depressing thoughts.

 

10. The Bipolar

This friend is partially crazy because his mood swings change from good to totally moody in seconds without any provocation.

 

Life can be a sea of roses when you have the perfect friends to share your joys or sorrows, but if you must put up with these ten types of friends, all you will find are frustrations. Discover the toxic friends in your life and stay away from them, for your own good.

 

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