Why Am I So Angry?
When we are ready for a solution, we need to find people who have broken their attachments to anger, in favor of personal examination and healthy assertiveness. In hearing others’ stories and identifying with the feelings beneath their anger, we begin to feel safe to explore our own story. We see how we created external conflicts and drama that reflected our inner wounds. We realize how our assumptions and expectations resulted in self-fulfilling prophecies. We understand how holding other people responsible for our own well being made us miserable prisoners of the past. Our purpose is to learn and grow from past tribulations and trauma. In childhood, it is other people and circumstances that determine our well being. In adulthood, it is us. The defense mechanisms that initially protected us when we had no better tools or support, not only hold us hostage to earlier pain and problems, but actively attract similar scenarios. We repeatedly replay the same themes and emotions, until we take responsibility for our healing.
Healing old wounds allows us to relinquish anger. We must realize that we have expectations of others left over from childhood, which can never be fulfilled. As adults, we are capable of caring for ourselves mentally, emotionally and physically. Accepting that responsibility means that our relationships will either improve or dissolve. And those that end, create space to attract higher levels of engagement. The most important relationships are with our Higher Power and ourselves. When we shift our focus to spiritual and personal healing, all of our other relationships change.
When our opinions are rooted in reactions to stress, our life is diminished, dark and depressing. Becoming open-minded and teachable infuses us with hope and enlarges our life. The power that we thought anger brought us has no power to create happiness, health, fulfillment or peace. It can only attract more negative energy. There is no amount of anger or violence that can heal our wounds, make us whole, compensate for our pain, or insure a stress-free life. Instead, anger bonds us to and exacerbates the problem.
The solution lies in surrender. We must reach out for healthy assistance and voice our pain so as to release it. We can explore the vulnerable feelings beneath our anger and increasingly let go of the latter. We can cease harming the human body and value it as a vehicle for soul expression. We can practice patience, tolerance, compassion, and understanding until it feels genuine. Real safety, security and self-esteem arise from healthy personal caretaking and demonstrating spiritual principles in our daily lives. Our highest purpose patiently waits behind our strongest defenses. The courageous commitment to surrender addictions removes the need for deception and pretense, and uncovers the magnificent treasure of our true self in the present moment.
