Healing the Heart of Grief

by Rev. Judi A. Lynch

The heart chakra processes the emotions of love. The grief over love, over the longing for love and all there is in-between. Grief and mourning are especially taxing on the physical heart as these emotions can bind the heart that is closed by negativity. We are meant to evolve into spiritual beings by leaving behind the self-serving type of love and resonating the kindness and beauty of divine love. Non-judgmental, non-attached, and radiant.

I was talking to a friend at lunch the other day and she gave me her insight into one of the signs that you are in a more “evolved” state of grieving. Her husband died suddenly one day about three years ago. She said she had to get to “that place” in her heart and soul where she could finally let go and not be angry and afraid anymore. She said when she did that, she felt her husband’s energy everywhere around her. Not only his energy but his very essence urging her on to move forward in life and find peace in everything that had happened.

Before she made this conscious effort to heal her heart, she had felt cold, lonely, sad and angry at different moments and bits of time and just getting by in others. When her acceptance (which contained her forgiveness) caught up with her reality, she felt alive again. She was okay and taking care of herself with family and friends close by for emotional support. She was remembering that she was a person who could survive on her own and forgive him for leaving. I could see the difference in her eyes now that she had decided to enjoy the rest of her life and be grateful for what she had learned about herself. It was a real gift of independence for her. This was also one of her life themes.

She said she hardly has a memory of the last couple of years after her husband died. She walked through life going through the motions and holding onto anger that he had left her here alone. While the whole key to knowing he had never really left been inside her willingness to forgive him and let him go. She has studied the metaphysical and the spiritual for years, but when her husband crossed over, her communication and healing channels were closed by her emotions. She had depended on him being there for many more years and she was angry at having to do things for and by herself now. It was a great shock to her system in many ways.

When she felt that it was time to take several steps forward in her life, the result was extreme soul growth for her and all the gifts that forgiveness and acceptance bring. Feeling that energy and knowing it was there around you the whole time brings a new perspective on your ability to communicate and heal spiritually. It reminds you that your emotions can greatly influence the function of the body’s chakras and the channels we use to keep them open.