Is Forgiveness a Choice?
Have you been holding on to pain? Learn to practice forgiveness.
Forgiveness is not a choice in the Healing process
Whenever I walk on stage to give a lecture, the second part is often the demonstration. Most people come with the hope of connecting with someone who has passed. I generally begin by saying:
“I understand that all of you would love a message but isn’t there someone here, living, right now in your life that you need to reach out to, connect with or forgive?” I feel this is a poignant comment to make, so as not to forget those around us today.
I feel life is short enough as it is and I would not want someone one day to say: “Maybe I should have, could have or would have.” The act of forgiveness in its own right is incredibly powerful. It’s easy to say, “I forgive,” but I’m not talking about just the words here. It’s not an occasional action or throwaway comment, but more a permanent attitude of mind. Above all, it can heal past wounds, whether accidental or intentional. I’m sure you’ve heard the expression “forgive and forget” but don’t dismiss it too quickly. Many of us still try to forget, push it away, or better still, try not to think about some hurt that was done to us in the past. We live in the hope that our heart will heal on its own and any bad feelings will just fade away.
Sadly, this approach doesn’t always work. By holding onto anger or the resentment toward others as well as yourself, the feelings begin to worsen on a vibrational or energetic level. If you’ve been hurt in the past, and you’re holding onto negative feelings, they can take their toll on your emotional, physical, and spiritual well-being. Psychological effects include depression, tension, anxiety, and stress. Your whole cardiovascular, digestive, muscular, and nervous system can all be affected. Some people hold on these feelings for weeks, months, years, or in the most severe cases for the rest of their lives.
Often times people generally have to blame someone. In these cases, people become accustomed to a life filled with rage, hurt, anger, and bitterness. They assume the personality of that energy, and the negative emotions become who they are. Here’s an interesting scenario. If all those feelings were confiscated, who would that person become?
As we’re all made up of energy, we end up holding on to these emotions of pain and anger. We resonate specific vibrations by the natural laws of “ As like attracts like.” We end up attracting others who have the same issues and problems. This is another example of energy drain, which I call soul leakage. For many, especially when the hurt is deep, it’s impossible to imagine forgiving someone who’s caused such physical, mental, or emotional pain.
Making the conscious decision to start the forgiveness process is the first step in letting go of the pain and marks the beginning of the healing process. When we forgive, we can get back to loving ourselves, and start to vibrate at a higher level through our heart center and attract love in many forms. Now wouldn’t you rather be attracting that into your life instead of pain and negativity?
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