Anita Moorjani: Sensitive Is the New Strong
We are here as particles of light, and we believe we’re separate, we fight with each other and argue with each other and compete with each other and judge each other. Although, when we die, we realize, “Oh my God, we’re all part of God, we’re all expressions of God, and we’re all connected, and we’re all one.”
It was a big revelation for me because I realized, “Oh gosh, if I don’t love myself, and value myself, what happens is I am not allowing God to express through me. I am suppressing the light of God; I’m suppressing that mirror ball from expressing itself through me.” Every time I suppress myself and actually deny who I am to please other people, I am restricting a facet of that light of God from expressing itself.
Victor Fuhrman: Please tell us about your book, What If This Is Heaven?
Anita Moorjani: My second book was to explain to you that heaven is not a place. It’s a state of being.
If we knew that, and if we knew that our purpose is really to express ourselves and find our joy, heaven could be right here because when I crossed over, I realized that. Let me backtrack a bit. In my life before the NDE, I was always worried about creating the best possible afterlife.
Everything I would do was about building up good karma so I’d have a good afterlife. I had to make sure God is happy with me to have a good afterlife, so I have good other lives. So everything I was doing here was done to create the best possible afterlife. When I crossed over, I realized I was supposed to have the best possible life, or I’m supposed to focus on creating the best possible life, not the best possible afterlife. When we’re over there, we want to come here. We want to come here and play and find our joy and connect with other people. And I realized we had it … it really is about finding heaven while we’re here, not about biding our time so that we can get to heaven when we die. So that was what it’s about. I offered tools on how we can find that piece of heaven while we are here.
Victor Fuhrman: What inspired Sensitive Is the New Strong?
Anita Moorjani: Recent events happening all over the world. And when I say recent, I don’t just mean over the last year, but over the last couple of years, because I actually started writing this book in 2017.
And I was finding that as I began to navigate the world as who I am now, as opposed to who I was before the NDE, and when I say that I was always this way, I had suppressed myself to fit into the world.
That is what caused me to get sick. When I am truly being myself, I realized that who I am is somebody who is super open; super vulnerable. I just want to connect with everybody, love everybody. I see us all as being connected, as one. I realized that we live in a world that’s not conducive to being that way.
What happens is that we end up getting exploited. We end up getting bullied. We live in a world where it’s just not conducive. And the other thing I realized is that many of us are highly intuitive and highly, not just empathic and sensitive, but also highly intuitive. We sense things, and we know something, and we don’t know how we know them. And this world is not conducive for us to express our knowledge and intuition. We’re often told that it’s your imagination, and it’s often dismissed.
Intuitive people, who are aware of their six sensory self, who are empaths, and all of these things, are actually the ones who are seen as delusional. The way our culture and our society are, it feels like we are actually six sensory beings. Still, our paradigm is created for people who believe they are five sensory beings. So it’s made by five sensory beings for five sensory beings. As I explained in my new book, if you imagine that you were told that you can’t use your eyes from the time you were born, you have to close your eyes. This is, in essence, what we’re told about our sixth sense and our intuition that you can’t use it.
So imagine if you denied using your eyes your entire life, and you have to navigate the world without your eyes. And if you did open your eyes and said, “Oh my God, there’s something more, there’s something more than my other five senses because of my six senses, so you have your intuition and all.” But we say, “Oh, there’s something more.” And you get told, “No, no, that’s your imagination. Stop.” I speak about how different a world we would have created if we were never allowed to use our eyes.
Similarly, if we grew up embracing our sixth sense, our intuition, the world would be a very different place. It is why for people who are very intuitive, who have a powerful sixth sense, it is not easy to navigate this world because we do not even have the correct vocabulary to express it. So that’s what I get into in this book.
Victor Fuhrman: In your new book, Sensitive is the New Strong offers a 35-question quiz that readers may use to determine their empathic ability level. What are a couple of the most common traits?
Anita Moorjani: The most common trait is actually feeling physically in your body the pain of someone else. If you actually see somebody in pain, you actually start to kind of feel it as if you’re going through it yourself. That’s one common trait. Also, if you see something like a gory scene, or something happening, even if it’s on TV, and the scene doesn’t leave you. Other things are like feeling exhausted and depleted when you’re in a crowded place, but not knowing why.
It’s because empaths are like sponges. They’re just absorbing the energies of the people around them without even realizing it. So those are some of the most common traits. Victor Fuhrman: How may a meditation practice aid in developing our intuitive skills?
One of the things I have noticed with empaths is that the best way to actually recharge your batteries, so to speak, is time spent alone in quiet time, with no input. Meditation is an ideal way to do that. But you can meditate sitting alone, or you can even contemplate out in nature. I have a tiny garden outside my home, and thankfully, it’s not significant because I wouldn’t be able to maintain it if it were substantial. It’s just small enough for me to keep it myself.
During the last year, with us being stuck and not traveling, I have taken to just being out in my garden, and it just replenishes me. Anything like that; anything that you do alone that charges your batteries. When we allow ourselves to be barefoot on the earth, we actually start to align with the rhythm of Mother Earth because empaths are so sensitive. But I ground myself regularly because I want to align with Mother Earth. I want to align with nature and the skies and the oceans and not with crowds of people around me.
Victor Fuhrman: Do empaths need to disconnect from or, go on a cleanse from media and cyberspace?
Anita Moorjani: Yes, absolutely. We do need to have what I call “information fasts.” I do that regularly. It’s a good idea to have a screenless day, maybe once a week or every two weeks. It’s not easy to do, not even watch fun things. Literally, a screenless day if you can’t manage one a week.
And if you can manage one every two weeks or once a month, an utterly screen-free day, that’s great. But if you can’t handle a screen-free day, at the very minimum, cut down on the news media and information media for a couple of days, a week, or one day a week, where you watch no news.
Victor Fuhrman: Why are so many empaths people pleasers?
Anita Moorjani: Because when you feel the energies of the people around, you don’t always realize that this is happening. So, if someone around you feels awful, if they’re struggling, and you are feeling their energy, you’re just absorbing their energy. So, You’re a sponge, and you realize this is what you’re doing, and there are ways to mitigate it, by the way, but the first step is to recognize that you’re doing this. I was doing this.
That is one of the problems that empaths face when they don’t understand. But once you know it and realize this is their energy, there are ways to identify this as theirs. This is not mine. It becomes easier to break away from that and to stop being a people pleaser.
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