10 Ways to Say No When You Mean No
by Noah St. John
Do you sometimes say “yes” even when you want to say no? Highly successful people understand the importance of saying “no” even when other people want you to say “yes”.
This is why I call this the Power Habit of “Finding Your No.”
Many people have “lost their no” – meaning they feel guilty when they say no and end up saying “yes” even when they don’t want to.
How to stop doing this? Simply having the correct phrases at your fingertips can help, because then you don’t have to make something up on the spot when you’re under pressure.
Here are 10 key phrases to Find Your No…
1. I’d love to help, but I’m cutting back on the time I spend in that area.
2. Can we talk about this next year?
3. I like to schedule in those types of requests several days ahead; can you make that work for you?
4. I can hear the urgency about this, but I’m just not set up to respond to emergencies.
5. That sounds like so much fun! But it’s not just for me.
6. Why are you pushing me so hard?
7. I understand there are consequences when I say no to this, but I’m willing to live with those consequences.
8. You’ve been SO good to me, but I need to say no to this. Is there something else I can do for you instead?
9. I’m so honored that you would ask me! But I’m going to have to say no.
10. I would love to chat, but this is part of my business day and I’m focused on earning money. How about tonight?
The ability to disagree without being disagreeable is a habit that’s simple on the far side of complexity. It would be simplistic to say, “Just say no.” That’s simple on the near side of complexity, which really means it’s not much help.
Simple on the far side of complexity means to take these steps, which can seem complicated, yet keep it simple. Many of my coaching clients, when we do this step together, realize, “Wow, I didn’t even realize how many times I’ve been saying ‘yes’ when I really wanted to say no.
Noah’s Note: It’s okay to disagree without being disagreeable.
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About the Author
Noah St. John is the best-selling author of The Book of Afformations: Discovering The Missing Piece to Abundant Health, Wealth, Love, and Happiness. Noah is famous for inventing Afformations® and creating customized strategies for fast-growing companies and leading organizations around the world.
His sought-after advice is known as the “secret sauce” for creating breakthrough performance.
Noah’s books have been translated into ten languages and he appears frequently in the news worldwide, including CNN, ABC, NBC, CBS, Fox, National Public Radio, PARADE, Woman’s Day, Forbes.com, Los Angeles Business Journal, Chicago Sun-Times, Washington Post, Bottom Line/Personal, Selling Power and The Huffington Post.
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