Release Behaviors that Keep You In Negative Relationships

Are your relationships healthy for you or are you engaged in some negative relationships?

Tricky Behaviors that Keep Us in Negative Relationships

Relationships and love are not just about gifting boxes of chocolates on Valentine’s Day, they are much more than that. We must be able to differentiate between healthy relationships and negative relationships so that we do not become attached to the latter.

A satisfying and healthy relationship can make us better and happier. To cultivate that there must be decent communication, respect and good habits of the couple.

“The company of another person must add value to your life, and not fill an emotional need.” ~ Gottfried Kerstin

When communication, respect, and good habits do not exist, negative relationships are born. Worse still is to maintain these relations for convenience with the following tricky behaviors.

Disregarding your intuition

Has your inner voice been saying for some time that your partner is not what they seem?

It is very common that at the beginning of the relationship everything seems perfect. It is the part of the passion that brings us closer to this person: we tend to minimize their defects and increase their qualities. The problem starts when they start appearing, or you begin to see specific unhealthy behaviors like lies, strange attitudes and excessive jealousy.

If you ever find yourself in this situation as such, stop, or you will enter into one of those unhappy relationships that no one wants to have. Analyze the case and if you think you are actually falling into unhealthy behaviors, think about the different options that are available.

Sometimes it is possible to seek external help, and support, but it is better to terminate the connection to avoid more serious problems in the future.

“The intuitive mind is a sacred gift, and the rational mind is a faithful servant. We have created a society that honors the servant and has forgotten the gift. ” ~ Albert Einstein

Anxiety about married life

If your family is like any other, they probably want to know if and when you are getting married. They will express their concern for your singleness without caring about your age or your goals. It is a widespread thing, and one must learn to deal with it instead of becoming obsessed with the subject.

Many negative relationships are born of this concern. Both women and men may feel tempted to start a connection just to avoid the constant questionings.

“The problem is that we live in the culture of the happy ending, in the culture of ‘how it should be’ rather than ‘as it is.’ If they had not taught us this fantasy, I believe we would be less neurotic.” ~ Anonymous

When the engagement time finally arrives, some families begin to push for marriage. Some people will eventually marry, and after a short time, they realized they are involved in a relationship that is not what they wanted.

The best you can do is not to worry about external pressures. If you are not ready now, merely explain this to anyone in your family or circle of friends who comes with questions and demands.

We end up conforming to negative relationships

Conforming is a behavior that may be related to the previous, but not necessarily. Those are situations in which we maintain a relationship with another person only to avoid questions, but without real love.

You may like the person, but do not necessarily love the person, or there are things you have problems tolerating. However, you put up with it because it is “easier” than enduring social pressure.

It may also happen that there is no external pressure. You may have nurtured the biggest dream of getting married and having children to form a stable family. So you seek and find a person who wants more or less the same thing. It most likely does not meet all your expectations, but since you’re willing to offer what you want, you accept, thinking you are in fact fulfilling a life dream.

As you can imagine, in any of the two situations described we will have unhappy relationships. At first, they may even work, but after a few years, the problems will be too much to handle.

“Never settle for being the ‘something’ of one person when you can be the ‘everything’ of another.” ~ Anonymous

How do we change these behaviors?

We all have intuition, although we have not often given it the attention it deserves. Paying attention to intuition is the best way to avoid being tricked by the circumstances and end up in an unhappy relationship. Just listen to what your feelings say.

We always want to avoid pain and suffering. This is normal so we can do two things with unhappy relationships: To get out of them or to convince ourselves that all is well. If you wish to stay sane, the best alternative would be to end the ill-fated relationship at once.

It may not be easy, but you will be taking control of your life, and you can seek a relationship that really brings you happiness, and make you feel like a completely loved being.

“Be guided by intuitions is not the same as being guided by impulses. Intuition sees beyond your eyes. The impulse is frighteningly blind.”~ Anonymous

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