Boundaries: Why Good Fences Make Good Neighbors

Airing Sunday, 25 January 2015, 9:00 PM ET

The famous quote by David Frost, “Good Fences make Good Neighbors” comes from his 1914 poem entitled “Mending Wall.” In this poem the question is raised as to whether or not a fence that defines one neighbors property from another, is a good idea or not.

Identifying the property line of your life, and creating and maintaining good personal boundaries is probably the healthiest thing you can possibly do for yourself, your relationships, and your life.

Without good personal boundaries, it becomes difficult for others to identify what is appropriate or inappropriate for you.

Some people have extreme, over-the-top personal boundaries that are as clearly defined as Mount Everest, while other people have personal boundaries that are so microscopic that they appear to be invisible.

Both are examples of unhealthy boundaries. The mountain most likely represents an extreme need to protect oneself from the world and other people, while the latter example most likely represents an extreme need to be accepted and loved.

Creating and maintaining healthy personal boundaries requires clarity, authenticity, and integrity, and a keen sense of identity.

Exchanging extreme unhealthy boundaries for healthy personal boundaries also takes the courageous awareness to accept that your comfort level is just as important as anyone else’s, without becoming angry, arrogant or offensive.

When you know how to have a strong awareness of your non-egoic identity, personal boundaries become easier to erect and maintain.

Healthy boundaries allow your family, friends and other relationships to enjoy the beauty of your strengths, gifts, talents, and time without leaving you feeling taken for granted, taken advantage of, resentful and/or exhausted.

Join Intuitive Life Coach Sylvia Henderson as she discusses the gift of healthy personal boundaries.

About Sylvia Henderson

Sylvia Henderson wears many hats as an intuitive life coach, energy healer, hypnotherapist, spiritual teacher, public speaker, mom to two sons with Autism, and a stress relief expert. She has over 16 years of experience in the Body/Mind/Spirit connection and field and has studied over 20 different holistic healing and wellness modalities. She is gifted and talented at unraveling the structure of modern day problems and shifting belief systems. She helps her clients discover the root cause of their issues and quickly resolve them so that their lives can truly heal and improve.