By Gina Hardy
The sudden, aching void that forms when your honey – who you thought was your only soul mate, best friend, lover and life companion – gives you the news that “it’s over” can send you down a very dark road.
It can be a period of deep analysis tinged with daily oscillation from loving them to hating them, and yourself; try to gain some control, and get to a better-feeling place within. Despair sets in which triggers wanting them so badly you’ll even get in your car and go find them at some ungodly hour – been there a few times.
The agony of a painful breakup is almost intellectually indescribable. Your heart and soul feel like they are being ripped from their foundations. The flash flood and continuous waves of feelings that you will never find someone like that again is overwhelming. What will life be like alone again? Will life ever return to a happy place?
Your mind sends your bodily functions into overdrive as thoughts tumble forth like a river of terrifying rapids. Losing them feels like dying emotionally. It’s too scary. Why? How? Are they seeing someone else? I thought we were ok!
LOSS AND ATTACHMENT
Breakups feel like a huge loss – a sudden detachment from the attachment of loving and needing love from another. Your attachment is what causes the pain, not the person breaking up with you. This is fact number one. It’s never about the person who has left you, so chasing them to explain why, or to get closure is often futile.
It’s about you! They merely represent where you are at in your own level of self love. If you depend on someone else for love, it will likely be the death of the relationship eventually. Perceived loss of love and pain seem to be two inseparable requirements to get the life badge that says: “Welcome to being fully alive and human.”
We come to Earth to experience the full portfolio of situations along with their matching, contrasting emotional braids, and there’s nothing we can do to avoid it. In fact we ask for it – willingly strapping ourselves in for the ride, and to experience the inevitable train crash. Why? As human beings we seek wholeness through a complete range of experiences. As you get to experience every side of the coin within a given situation, you get more in touch with who you are – your own truth without any illusions. Are you getting then, that really you are simply not in control of anything, let alone relationships starting and ending? How do I know? My own love life path shows me this every day.
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