Ask Spiritual Questions May 2026 cuts through the hype around narcissism—not as a buzzword, but as a terrified, subconscious survival strategy that mirrors back the very parts of ourselves we’ve denied.
Narcissism: Ask Spiritual Questions
Question – Ask Spiritual Questions May 2026
Dear Royce,
Seems there’s so much talk about narcissists lately, but I’m not exactly clear about what that term means. Can you define narcissism in an easy way? What do I need to know to deal with them? I hear it is hopeless to try to change a narcissist. Is that true? And, really, aren’t we all narcissistic to some degree?
Signed,
“Am I a Narcissist?”
Answer – Ask Spiritual Questions May 2026
Dear “Am I a Narcissist,”
You’re right, there’s a lot of hype about the terms narcissist and narcissism lately. It’s one of those psycho-jargon words that has made it into mainstream awareness. Several with glaring “symptoms” of narcissism are on display in the news daily, giving us an up-close case study of how they operate.
It may seem that there’s a widespread pandemic of narcissism. Believe it or not, there are not that many true narcissists running around. However, the ones who are, especially those in positions of power, can be very destructive. But fear not — awareness of how they operate and what they’re doing makes them powerless.
What is Narcissism?
Narcissism is a lot more complex than labeling people as self-absorbed, conceited, unable to feel empathy, and prone to taking cruel actions. Yes, those are glaring symptoms, but let’s go deeper.
Narcissists subconsciously believe they must not allow others to be (who they are), do (what they need to do), or have (what they want in life) because they believe it directly threatens them in some way.
In other words, they are more terrified than the average person and have mastered ways to cover it up so no one can tell. Unless you pull back the curtain.
Their absolute terror becomes the justification for thinking only of themselves. They try to control others by manipulating, suppressing, scamming, and disempowering, using any means necessary.
Here’s the biggest clue to tell if someone is a narcissist: they feel no remorse or guilt about their actions.
Why? Because they firmly believe they are justified in whatever they do and whatever they did.
The development of narcissism goes back to sources early in life. Prior to the age of three, there were times when they caused pain or some kind of loss to someone. Since who they really are is a Higher Consciousness, all-love being, they made life-altering, programming decisions about themselves. Such things as: “I’m bad. I’m dangerous and can’t be trusted.” Most importantly: “I don’t deserve love because I caused pain and loss.”
These events are pivotal moments, since a primary goal as a physical being is to be the loving person we really are all the time. The decisions they made shaped how they perceive themselves and how they live their lives. Plus, to protect themselves and others, their primitive, survival-based consciousness suppresses and ‘forgets’ those incidents and the decisions they made. However, those memories are stored subconsciously and surface in various ways, especially in their choices.
Truth is, we’ve all done things that have caused pain or loss, but narcissists do more extreme, painful things. Unlike most of us, they are completely unwilling to remember, take responsibility for their choices, and clean up what they did.
Surviving the relationship
We all have a primary goal of survival. The minute we feel fear, our “survival consciousness” kicks in, causing us to believe the only cure is to cause pain and loss to protect us. The difference is, most of us eventually remember what we’ve done, feel guilty, and want to clean it up in some way.
Narcissists are so locked in that they won’t remember their actions. If they do, they justify their actions, blame others, and feel no desire to clean up. Their attitude: Why clean up something I don’t feel guilty about?
Here’s the problem with narcissists: There’s no tipping point when they will remember and take responsibility. That would mean they are weak and vulnerable.
How do they deal with those fears? By controlling, suppressing, destroying, slandering, and invalidating others. In other words, their absolute denial and covered-up fear of themselves turns into their “justified” control of others to assure their own “survival.”
All their choices are driven by fear. They believe appearing strong, powerful, and invincible will prevent anyone from discovering this. Since they won’t admit or remember what they’ve done, helping them change is extremely difficult—maybe even impossible.
The main takeaway: narcissists serve as mirrors, reflecting what we may not want to see within ourselves. They provide an opportunity for self-reflection and growth by triggering our own awareness.
So, the best way to “deal with” narcissists is to ask yourself why you attracted one and see the denial they are mirroring to you. They are your best awakener, revealing deeply hidden aspects of yourself. How? By being your expert triggerer.
Keep in mind that narcissists show you an extreme version of those things you’ve done, all suppressed and denied.
Then, take action. Do something to clean up what you’ve done. Ask yourself what to do, even a symbolic gesture of some kind. Apologize. Give. Assist. Talk. Return. Pay. Do what feels appropriate and right.
Be thankful for that narcissist. They are helping you remember who you really are–a powerful, deserving person who is committed to authentic love.
Remember: On a planetary level, we have all chosen to be here during these challenging times to help wake us up in huge ways. Gratefully, narcissists are doing their jobs exceedingly well, so we can finally get our power back once and for all.
(To get to the origins of why you are attracting narcissists, reach out to me. The deep inner work helps neutralize the sources of your subconscious need for narcissists to trigger you.)
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About Royce Morales
Royce Morales is a renowned spiritual trailblazer who has been teaching her innovative, intuitive, multi-dimensional approach to inner transformation for over four decades. She developed Perfect Life Awakening, which empowers you to discover and neutralize the origins of triggers from this and previous lives, awakening the authentic life you deserve.
Royce hosts “The Perfect Life Awakening Show” on Om Times Media every Wednesday at 9:00 a.m. Pacific Time. Listen to past episodes on iHeartRadio. Follow her on Facebook and LinkedIn. Read her Substack “Royce’s Ramblings.”
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