Is It Love or Infatuation?

by Maria Khalifé

“No one can understand love who has not experienced infatuation. And no one can understand infatuation, no matter how many times he has experienced it”. ~Mignon McLaughlin, The Neurotic’s Notebook

How do you know if you are only infatuated with someone or if you are truly in love? These feelings can be hard to analyze if you are in the midst of them, but there are some very practical steps you can take so that you don’t run away with yourself. Infatuation has a tendency to make you want to do that. You need to be able to tell if it is love or infatuation.

Make a List and Check it Twice.

Santa Claus isn’t the only one who recommends this tool! If you can write down your feelings in a list, you can begin to show yourself precisely what they are. Once you write down the list, set it aside for a time. When you return, see if you can mark each item as Love, Infatuation or Lust. If you have a really good friend whom you trust implicitly, share your list with them and see if they agree.

Check With the Experts.

We are so lucky these days with having the internet to do our research. No more time-consuming trips to the library to use out-of-date information. Read about love, infatuation and lust on the internet. See which ones’ words your list above most likely fits into. Use lots of different resources: religious literature, ancient literature, philosophy, psychology, pop culture. Hit it from as many angles as you can.

See Also

How to be Successful at Manifesting Love

Ask Someone You Truly Respect for Their Opinion.

It’s very easy to let infatuation make you pigheaded or mulish. Humble yourself and tell your feelings to someone you respect, and then open yourself up wide to listen without judgment. If you can record what he or she says, and then listens to it later on, some of your emotions will have drained away and you will hear the words with more objectivity.

Here is a list of qualities for both Infatuation and Love. Check off the ones you are feeling in each column. It can be a keenly insightful way to determine if it’s love or infatuation.

Infatuation can sometimes lead to real love; most times, it does not. What I would like for you is to be truly in love in your life and it is my hope this article can help bring that about.