Serena Dyer: Don’t Die with Your Music Still in You

I am 28 now and as a teenager I didn’t have any of those struggles – I was very confident, I was very comfortable with who I was and I felt very safe in my skin. It was really more in my early to mid twenties that I really struggled and I think it was because I wasn’t sure what I was going to do with my life and with my career, like a lot of people in their 20’s, 30’s or even any age at times are not sure. I always had this sense of identity from being a student. When you say “I am in college” people respect that and you have an identity from that. The pressure of “what do I do” didn’t really exist for me because I was a student, that was it, that was fine.

As soon as I graduated and I wasn’t doing anything necessarily, I felt like I was nothing. So who I was, was so wrapped up in what I did but at the same time I had parents that had taught me this idea that I create my own reality, that I create my own life and that I am responsible for the things that happen in my life because I align with them – my thoughts create what my existence is.

I think that is a lot of pressure, because having that awareness, it’s like “Shoot I am not doing anything but I know better. I know that I shouldn’t be beating myself up over it, I know I should be accepting of it and just focusing on getting beyond this stuck period but I am not able to do that”.