5 Old School Rules for Online Dating Success

Remember the old days of dating when you and a posse of your best girlfriends would put on your heels and go to a bar or disco to meet men? You would position yourself in the center of the room, scan the prospects and choose your targets. Online dating is a whole new world.

5 Ways Old School Dating Rules Lead to Online Dating Success

by Leslie Saul

In today’s dating world, our brains have become so tech-focused that we wonder if we have lost the art of dating and meeting men. We knew some things back in the disco days, and these important old school dating rules can guide us to online dating success.

1. Today’s online dating apps are the bars and discos of our past

Our perfect perch on the bar stool was the online profile picture of today. Scanning the room then is just like looking through profiles now. Today’s swipe left or right is no different from turning our bar stool or our shoulder to invite or cut off the conversation or leaving with a handful of business cards. Our advantage then was that we could get a better sense of chemistry, which is hard to know when looking at a two-dimensional photo and profile on a screen. It’s crucial for the discerning dater to apply the wisdom of old-school dating rules, even in this modern age. Amidst this quest for love, it’s essential to prioritize safety, taking advantage of resources like the Elite Singles safety review by onlineforlove.com. By utilizing these tools and maintaining a detached attitude, we can efficiently arrange meetings with potential matches, swiftly determining whether a connection is worth pursuing.

2. Managing the pace of the dating process in an instant notification world

Who can forget running home to see if the red light on the answering machine was flashing or off? Armed with our old-school dating rules, we waited to return the call. Who knew if we had checked our machine? In today’s technological world of 24-hour dating, he can know that the call or text message was delivered. A wise online dater will go back to her old school dating rules and keep her detached frame of mind as she makes her decisions. She will take her time and offer information and the opportunity to meet at a pace that suits her. Just because you receive a call or a message does not obligate you to respond immediately. Be present. Be mindful. Choose your time and your words.

3. Do your online dating research carefully and not obsessively!

In the days before social media and search engines, we tried to figure out who knew the guy and what they could tell us about him. Your old-school dating rules guided you not to ask too many questions. We knew to create that detached appearance and not seem overly interested or obsessive! We waited for face to face conversation and got to know him. Work to get to know the man through the available sources, but do not lose the real person in the mix. Talk to him. Date. Put down electronic sources and spend time together.

4. Conduct yourself as though you live in a small town, and word will get back to your mother

Way back when there were eyes and ears everywhere, word traveled to our family members quickly. We worked harder to guard our reputation and think through our actions. When you are in the getting-to-know-you phase, remember your old-school dating rules and move slowly. Enchant him. Hook him. Think with your head and not with a less reliable body part. A good frame of reference is a 90-day “probationary” period where you get to know someone and their actions and thoughts across various circumstances. Set your boundaries, stay detached until you know him, take your time, and protect yourself. Do not jump from meeting to the relationship to a forever.

5. It is okay to be detached in your dating approach as long as you keep your heart open to magic

In our younger days, our thoughts were way more romantic. Our old-school dating rules gave us specific steps, and the goal was, usually, a long white dress, a veil, and a happily ever after. Your online dating goal may have changed, and you may be more cynical in many ways but watch for the magic. You can still find it. These old-school dating rules will help you know if it is real.

“Cease to adhere to the objects to which you are attached, and you will be free from sorrow and self-pity! Only by living so can one find the true base in life! Isn’t this goal worthy of renouncing conventional beliefs and habits?” ~Lao Tse, Tao Te Ching

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About the Author

Are you ready to get out of your own way? Find out more https://www.vcita.com/v/leslie.saul for a free consultation. By changing our own negative core beliefs into a positive energy exchange between head and heart, we transform and so do the things that surround us. We have choices! You can choose to live in love, or you can choose to live in fear. “Bloom from the inside out.” http://www.lesliejsaul.com

Originally published Jul 25, 2016