The Evolution of Love

By deZengo

LOVE! Four letters and one word have the power to change everything.

While most experience love in one form or another from birth through death and everything in between, it is when we begin to question and delve deep into our inner workings that true change occurs.   Generally February is associated with Eros [ 1 ] Love – thus we see images of cupid spreading his magical bow on lovers and the blessed sacred union between couples.   In 2012 there is much speculation and hope for a shift in our consciousness.  Through this shift, one aspect that has the potential to take a quantum leap forward is the Evolution of Love.

As in all types of personal and spiritual growth, learning often comes from experience and when you deal with matters of the heart it is important to realize that most will experience various nuances of love, most sources agree and construct 3 – 6 types of love.  No doubt you will find some who will overlap in the type of love you receive or give.

1.   STORGE (life-long friends)

2.   AGAPIC (totally “thou” centered)

3.   MANIA (Possessiveness and Intense Dependency)

4.   PRAGMA (logical-sensible)

5.   LUDUS (Self-centered Game Player)

6.   EROS (Romantic)

As you can imagine, romantic love is the most passionate and volatile.  It is also associated with our lower chakra center (Muldahara) because of its very nature.   California Polytechnic State University describes Eros Love as those who believe that love at first sight is possible if not mandatory. Falling in love is highly desirable. It is believed to produce an optimum  state in the whole mind-body; persons in love feel 10 years younger, sleep well, wake up rested and refreshed. Impotent persons become potent; inorgasmic persons become orgasmic. Every gland and organ is believed to be operating at maximum efficiency.

Eros love is monogamous although often serially. Erotic lovers remember exactly how their partners looked when they met; they remember exactly the day they met, the time they first touched, the time they first kissed, the day, hour, minute, place, smell, lighting effects of their first sex; and they expect their partners to remember and celebrate the anniversaries of such occasions.

The romantic lover must always have his or her best foot forward. Risks of losing the beloved cannot be afforded. On the other hand, erotic lovers constantly search for new ways to please their beloveds with ever-increasing delights — presents, new foods, new sexual techniques, and so on.

An erotic lover wants to know everything about the beloved from the first moment of their meeting, all of his or her experiences, joys and sorrows, who else he or she has loved in the past, how much and in what ways. At the same time, an erotic lover wants to reveal everything to the loved one — what she or he dreamed about last night, what happened on the bus today, how a second grade teacher embarrassed him or her.

Erotic lovers may like to wear matching T-shirts, identical bracelets, matching colors, order the same foods when dining out, find out that their blood types are the same; they typically want to be identified with each other as totally as possible.

Erotic lovers usually report having had a secure and happy childhood and believe that their parents were happily married.

If erotic lovers do not get jealous it is because they are rarely apart. There is thorough commitment. An erotic type can go quite comfortably without falling in love, sometimes for a long time, but when cupid strikes, it is hard, fast, and total. Breakups are explosive and painful.

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Erotic lovers initiate sex early in their relationship. It is always perceived as perfect, or becoming so, as indeed are all qualities of and experiences with the partner.  [ 2 ]

Of course there are just as many pitfalls to this type of love as well, and if the relationship does end the emotional and spiritual destruction have been seen throughout the course of history.  For those on a spiritual journey mastering and understanding the process allows you to fearlessly explore love and life.   In knowing that there is an evolution in love we are given the opportunity to express conscious decisions that truly reflect the richness of each type of love while trying to attain perfect love for all.

That’s the goal!  To have the ability to flow with love and embrace the sweetness of it’s nectar while not become dependent upon it – rather becoming a servant for it.

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