How to Deal with Negative People
Life is to be precious to be wasted on negativity and negative people.
Dealing with Negative People
by Johanna Kern
Negative people have a problem for every solution.
They can drain our energy and spoil our joy of life.
Some people advise to avoid them simply – but it’s not always possible because sometimes such persons are our relatives or coworkers.
It is important to remember that someone’s negative behavior is not a reflection of who we are. It only shows us what kind of person they are and what issues they may be dealing with.
Some of us are more prone to negative thinking than others. It can depend on our genetics, or it can be a result of childhood experiences. According to scientists, most humans tend to ponder more bad experiences than positive ones. It is because of an evolutionary adaptation that helps us avoid danger and quickly react to a crisis.
Negative people usually are that way because they feel they lack warmth and love. Often, they protect themselves from the world with their negativity. The good news is that our brains can be re-trained and our thought-patterns can be altered. In neuroscience, it is described as “experience-dependent neuroplasticity” – which essentially means that our thoughts and experiences shape our brains. Just as we can train our muscles, we can train our brains.
We can never react to the negativity of our family, spouse, or a friend with our negativity – that will not solve the problem.
Here is How to Deal with Negative People
When you first converse with them provide a listening ear and let them know they are not alone – but draw a line somewhere.
However, if they continue to dwell on problems after a few conversations, it is time to disengage. Switch topics, don’t let them pull you in their negativity. Nod or give simple reply such as “Hm” or “I see.” Each time they say something positive – reply enthusiastically – when you do it often, they will soon be more positive in their communication.
