Forgiveness and Releasing
Over the years that I’ve been practicing as a medium, many people have come to my events to hear from a loved one for closure, healing, to say hello, or to say the goodbye that was never said. But many times when I connect to their loved ones on the other side, there are frequently messages asking for forgiveness. They come through loud and clear with messages of love as well, as asking for forgiveness to right a wrong they did while they were here on earth. Whether it’s the abusive father who put his son through so much anguish, the alcoholic mother who locked herself and her feelings away from her daughter, or the non-emotional and distant spouse who wished he’d expressed his love more openly to his wife and children, the variations on this emotional roller coaster theme are endless.
I’m a great believer in living in the now, and not leaving things unsaid, to only have regrets later. So, usually when the link is finally severed and spirit steps back, I like to end by asking the audience, “Is there someone here, living, right now in your life that you need to reach out to, connect with and forgive?” I totally appreciate that most people came to that lecture with the hope of hearing from their loved ones who have passed, but part of the message in this article is about making the effort to reconnect with the people here in your lives, if at all possible. Don’t leave things unsaid; if there’s forgiveness to either offer, or receive, then start the process today!
This theme of asking for forgiveness happens quite often during my readings. It’s at that time that I hear stories about how they’ve not uttered a single word to a sibling, parent, or friend for many months or in some cases, even years! It’s often because of something that happened when a person in all their lives passed on. It could be the ring your sister received, the money that should have gone to someone else, the house that was sold without permission, and in some cases, people don’t even remember why they were not speaking because it has been so long.
For many, especially when the hurt is deep, it’s impossible to imagine forgiving someone who has caused you such pain. But when you make the conscious decision to start the forgiveness process, you are actually marking the beginning of the healing process.
When we forgive, we are able to get back to loving ourselves and stop feeling like a victim. This doesn’t mean that you’re releasing the person from the responsibility of their past actions. Instead, it means that you’re releasing the anguish that your soul is carrying around with it. Whether they deserve to be forgiven or not, just remember that you’re doing it primarily for yourself.
I know all too well that it can be hard to take the first step, but perhaps sending a card or agreeing to meet for coffee can be a baby step toward opening the lines of communication. If your gesture of forgiveness is ignored or met with hostility, then give yourself permission to let go of the pain and the associated negativity. Life is too short, and it would be sad if one day you said, “Maybe I should have, could have, or would have,” or even more poignant, “If only I had….”
John’s Lesson
Find a safe, quiet, and comfortable spot and try this short meditation. Begin by taking several slow, deep breaths. You’ll feel yourself becoming calm, centered, and grounded.
Visualize the person who you want to forgive walking up to you, whether they’re here in this world or the next. Really see them, and try letting go of your feelings of anger, resentment, or pain that you might feel towards them. Yes, let go!
Take a few more slow deep breaths. Now, I want you to imagine you’re surrounded by a beautiful shade of green light. This green light emanates from your heart center – a place of healing. Let this green light bathe you in healing energy and comfort, as it washes all over you and the person you are trying to forgive.
Focus on the properties of the green light, and take a few more deep breaths. Feel the light heal the heartache and hurt. Let it all go.
At this time, if you wish, say this healing affirmation:
“I am sharing the healing power of forgiveness and open my heart to receive your love.”
Remember, you and you alone have the ultimate power to forgive. And although forgiveness is often expressed from the other side, expressing it here, and reaching out now, is a gift that you can give yourself as well as to others.
So let us end this meditation with a quote from Mother Teresa: “If we really want to love, we must learn how to forgive.”
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About the Author
John Holland is an American artist, best-selling author, spiritual teacher, and public speaker, who describes himself as a psychic medium. johnholland.com
